I think this article stresses a very important point, the children are always the ones that receive the most damage. When I was 15, my father had an affair on my mother. We dealt with this issue as a family, not just a husband and wife. We all gave our input, and I was later able to understand that, like it or not, these things happen and we are forced to deal with them if we care enough about our family. I did not blame or hate either of my parents, but understood that, like the article says, we must face these issues head on. I forgave my father, as did my mother, because they both wanted the marriage to work, and they both dealt with the issue, and moved on. I think these days people are too quick to gratify themselves, and not show much concern for the children involved. We made them, so it is our responsibility, as parents, to show them the right way to deal with these issues, as a family. If we cannot deal with these issues on our own, then we should turn to someone who is trained to help us tackle them.

Sherbear is right - Children need to be involved in the recovery process. My daughter was 17 when my husband's affair was revealed, was at first very resentful and angry with him, but later said "I learned that good people sometimes make mistakes, but it's not the end of the world." I think they learn some of the lessons that we, as adults, learn about how to protect their relationships from this. They also learn that it takes courage to make things right again. The easy way out is to give up.