We used to have fun on this board. We used to blow off steam (keep our LBing out of our marriage) and have a few laughs. Now with all the fighting going on it seems there is no sense of esprit de corps left at this site.

Apologies in advance to K and JL who don't think these threads are helpful, but I do, so here I go...

If our xOW had a motto it would have to be (in a very whiney tone)....

"Why are all the good men married??? Waaaah....."

My H was her 3rd serious relationship with a married man by age 23 and she had destroyed one man's marriage by the time she was 18! Had an affair with her 38-year-old teacher, got him to separate from his wife and kids, set up house with him and finally filed his divorce papers for him because </font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">he didn't have the ***** to do it himself.</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">However, she is now a wonderful mother to Precious, she has been an ideal and cooperative EX-OW (empahsis). She could have dragged us to court numerous times and made our recovery misearable. Instead she has been very, very cooperative about child support and visitation. She has learned a lot and grown a lot since the pregnancy though and I doubt that she will do her man hunting amongst the married again. She got really burned this time and got her heart broken.

So, chime in and bash away. The funnier the better.

MJ

<small>[ November 14, 2003, 09:18 AM: Message edited by: MaryJanes ]</small>

"Wow, that hurts..."

This is in regard to when OM came over to our house during my Plan B---to help my wife deliver a litter of puppies. The female dog who had just delivered the pups (she WASN'T one of ours) jumped out of her whelping box and attacked him, biting him around the midsection (stitches and everything). When I eventually came home (weeks later), my wife warned me not to go down into the whelping room for fear for my safety. I peeked in and sat by the nice girl and her pups---petting her and them, without a problem.

My only regret---she didn't bite a few inches lower...

But hey---I am way above this kind of trashing...

<img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by K:
<strong>

But hey---I am way above this kind of trashing...

<img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">FOTFLMAO: Diet Pepsi went everywhere. Note to self: don't read MBers with soda in your mouth.

K, I'm too am way, way above this kind of trashing of our rotten, miserable, selfish....oh wait what was I saying? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

MJ

<img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> Our OW is the standard issue, self absorbed, full of psycho babble garbage. Her motto would be:

EVERYTHING IS ABOUT ME AND ONLY ME. NOTHING IS MY FAULT.

Petty much sums her up in a nutshell. She is just the same old, OW type.


But I too am above this type of trashing. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Man, she had so much power at 18yrs old. wich means that the affair started when she was a minor. A minor forced an adult to do all that?

I bet you would have a different opinion if she was your daughter.

What's my motto? I'M NOT YOU!

I'm not you: Its quite obvious that the 18 year old girl is a slut. Period. What would you do if it was YOUR daughter? Be proud?

<small>[ November 14, 2003, 02:07 PM: Message edited by: LynnG ]</small>

This OW motto would be:

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">You mean he didn't mean all those things he said to me? </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">She actually had the guts to ask me if my H meant any of the things he said to her.

Duh!

sss

Oh, and she starting crying on the phone while asking this question...like she couldn't believe that he went NC and didn't mean anything that he told her previously.

What a loser!

sss

Let's see. It's been a while, and luckily never any contact since a fluke while Sailorman was on our old AOL messenger. xOM, like many OP still thought it was all about him!!!! So, I'd have to say that his motto would be one of the following:

"What about me?!?!?!"
"What about all the money I spent?!?!"
or
"How could you get me kicked out of housing with a dog?!?!"

Now, we had replies for the last two, Sailorman replied to the second, about the money with, "I think you've been well compensated!!!!"(yeah, it stung at the time, but I think it's hilarious now!) and we replied to the last with, "You should have been kicked out when your W and D left!!!! Find a new home for the dog and good ridance!!!!" Looking back, I can see how truly blinded by the A I really was! Also how stupid I was to do those things! I am so greatful for Sailorman, and his forgiveness, and look forward to 20+ more years with him!!!!

Tigger

I imagine we'll all hear plenty of these from Amber as the Scott Petersen trial progresses.

It was funny, the other morning. On the news they had a prosecuting attourney and a defense attorney commenting on the lies Scott was apparently telling both his W and Amber. The prosecutor was saying "See, he's a liar. He couldn't even be truthful with Amber. Nothing he says can be trusted" and the defense attorney was saying "He was having an A. Cheaters lie 2 the BS and the A partner. The lies are about the A, not relevant 2 other aspects of the case."

I imagine both sides of the case will learn a lot about human na2re and As in particular by the time this is over.

I don't have any "mottos" from Rat Meat. I think I'd rather let those memories fade now. Besides, people might think he's s2pid or something... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

♥2long

Apology in advance to those that this song is a bit of a trigger...

OW had claimed Arms Wide Open as her song, in regards to the pregnancy...
in an email she told Mr Lee...
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">You're NOT the man you are supposed to be... </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Thus coming to her fav motto...
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> YOU LIED TO ME! </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Had he not lied in the first place... had he BEEN the MAN he was supposed to be...

You get the picture...

<small>[ November 14, 2003, 03:48 PM: Message edited by: Stacia_Lee ]</small>

Oh yes... and let's not forget, MY ALL TIME FAV...
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> She stole him from ME!! </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Meaning that "I" stole my own Husband!!!

Ok.. enough of this for me... I could go on all day!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

I had an OW-wannabe, but can I play along?

She said to my MIL, "I don't want him to move home and be manipulated by her."

Meaning manipulated by me, of course, when she had be telling us both lies about the other for months in an attempt to get us to divorce. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

Of course, those are from the words she said. If I were to ascribe a real motto to her it would be "If it moves, screw it. If it doesn't move, replace the batteries and screw it. If you can't screw it, try anyway." JMHO.

<small>[ November 14, 2003, 04:54 PM: Message edited by: *Takola* ]</small>

"Look, Mista Dave, you said I could have half your bidness and your cah. I need a cah...if you don't get that divorce stahted, my sistah and mothah are gonna be upset, I swear to Gawd."

And

"Your Honah, your Honah...moh money...I need moh money."

And to me...

"You're just jealous...you're driving him away. If you call me again, I'm gonna kick your [censored]."


Which brings me to her Motto:

"I want a man to take care of me so I don't have to work and the best way for me to do this is to get myself pregnant...hey! he looks like he has money!!!"

<small>[ November 14, 2003, 06:11 PM: Message edited by: catnip ]</small>

The first words out of my OW's mouth the ONLY time I talked to her and it was on the phone long distance AFTER my husband had told her that he had NO relationship with her to continue........

"I am so sorry that I have been so much trouble, BUT......."

And oh, did that "BUT" become a big jumpstart word to the revenge that she didn't get to get, he'd already told me EVERYTHING she thought she was going to tell me to make him lose it all!!! And like she was EVER sorry a day in her sorry life for anything she EVER did or said to ANYONE......a very typical OW. But I am above slamming her anymore......HAHA.

Deltamoon

I know this is for bashing ow, but i am sure pops would agree for our om his would be--
"next??!!"
As i found out he had many mw before me, and continued after me, as he stated "that is who I am" His life work is bringing happiness to mw. Sorry, not a nice thing to find out when you think you were special to someone, I will never make this mistake again in my lifetime, thankful I am married to a good and loving forgiving man (pops). Hope it was ok that i jumped in????

Our OW couldn't wait to "explain" herself to me when she finally had the chance!

"he told me.....blah, blah, blah"
".....I didn't know he was married" (the ring didn't tip you off, or the fact that I used to visit him for lunch)
"...he told me he was separated!" (duh, I thought that meant still married)
".... you were only living together until you finished school" (wait, I thought we were separated?)
"I'm sorry to have to tell you but OC was concieved in your home....." (what did my house look like [to catch her in psycho lies]?)
"..I just remember a couch and a mattress on the floor..." (oh, oookkkkk!, [we had a real bed!]she was NEVER in my home)

I know all about the A, she's just full of psycho lies she's been telling all her friends and family so they wouldn't see what a disrespectful homewrecker she was! What an idiot!

One time she even tried to tell me my H had "tears streaming down his face" when he first saw picture of OC....hello, I was right there w/ him...(in court)no tears...PSYCHO! "....what?... you didn't see them?"

Her motto would be an actual quote from her:

*******
"It's not my fault and it's not your fault, it's all HIS fault!"
*******

"GROW UP!" Would be my husband's OW's motto.

I've only spoken to her once on the phone. She called me to taunt me about the fact that he is having an affair with her, and that she's carrying his baby, and that he's going to be "Daddy" to her small army of children (all with different fathers), and to rub in every bad thing he's ever said about me. She is also under the impression that the stress in their relationship and the fact it's about to completely fall apart is all my fault. She ended the conversation with threats of violence to me, and shouted I need to "GROW UP!" three or four times before hanging up.

Sadly I doubt she will ever see the irony regarding that conversation <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

I have two OW. One my H had a physical affair with and one best friend of ours that he had an emotional affair with.

PA-OW - was living with boyfriend and her other three illegitimate kids from two different daddies, screwing my husband in a car during lunch breaks. When she turned up pregnant she claimed she ALWAYS wore condoms with her b-friend but never with my H. So she was 100% sure my H was the dadddy! 1.5 years later after visitation and un-court ordered child support, DNA proves it was not H's baby!

Her motto, "Let's see, I have two dead beat dads for my three other kids, should I pick the dead beat that lives with me or the MM who takes care of his family financially. <a milli-second of thought> I'll pick the MM and see how much cash I can get out of him."

Now for BF-OW. She was a single mom, older than us. Hung out with our family two or three times per week. Helped us through recovery from SA-OW and appeared to support the re-building of our marriage. Somewhere in it all she decides that my H is everything she ever wanted in a man. Unbeknownst to me they begin talking more and more during the day on the phone. Next thing I know she and he are proclaiming they are "in love". Through the grace of God, H realizes that their relationship is dead wrong in God's eyes and he hasn't given his all to the rebuilding our marriage. He cuts contact with her and her daughter completely in order to concentrate on our marriage.

After he tells her that she cannont be in our lives anymore she says to me: "Why are you taking my best friend from me?" ... my response: "Because you are having an inappropriate relationship with my husband and both of you failed to draw a line ... so now the line is drawn .... deal with it."

Her motto: "No fair, I saw him second!" and
"Come on, leave your wife and two kids for me so that my daughter can have a daddy."

Gotta love those OP. It's all about them!
I had fun. Sorry I'm so long winded.
Take care all,
Z.

MJ feeling a little mischievious today? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

And Stacia! That song! Well you know that story...Arms Wide Open....~sigh~ Forever a trigger....

Motto? Hmmm.....

"I'm the mother and "H's name" is the father and YOU ARE NOTHING!" <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

Taken from a phone call I made to her to try to set up a visit. ~UGH!~ Talk about being a wench!

love
Debi