</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> NC is perceived as selfish because, OMG, you’re putting yourself before a poor innocent child. How dare you! I don’t view it that way. YOU (BS) did not create the situation, so how can you be labeled as selfish for trying to survive it the best you can? </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">And for anyone who says that.. AMEN... I would be putting the needs of OC before my 3 INNOCENT
CHILD(ren) because they will freak. (they are all preteens. They are all still tender aged and very impressionable and yes, spoiled like little kids still. they are young, and they are precious to me- their eyes were full of hurt for so long during our separation and crying and etc.... I cannot do this to them now. We cannot. They don't deserve it.
Oc doesnt deserve to NOT have her father, either. However sad it all is, the two scenarios cannot exist right now (oc having H and bc having H). Its like two creditors and one has the preferential claim when H caused our family to file for "bankrutpcy"..... our family is emotioally re-building (like a company does when it re-organizes after a bankruptcy, lol). We are just getting strong and "normal" again and it is not time, period. If it is time, later, I pray God finds a way for it to work out. If not, that is H's burden to bear.
As FBS who has lived free of OW issues for 1.5 years, I assure you that PEACE is the word. Peace is restoring our family day by day! OC is in good hands- OW lives w/her parents still and is young. Has a large family, and MIL knows the family for years and we all know OC is happy, healthy and in good hands !
NC can be a peaceful and intelligent decision that is made to protect ALL the children and the sanity of the childrens' mothers. (ow and bw)
Contact, I agree, is wonderful also! Hats off to the AWESOME ladies here who are making C and their M work !! Really <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
<small>[ March 02, 2005, 07:51 PM: Message edited by: giovanna123 ]</small>