I'm asking for help, so bear with me. I used to surf porn sites frequently when I was a bachelor. When I met my wife, this habit reduced drasticly, but not completely. Unfortunately, I was not honest with her about this, and it was surfaced once before we were married, and now once since. I have now stopped going to those sites completely, and want to get my marriage back to where it was before, but honestly and without the porn. I understand that it can take a while for the harsh feelings to disappear. The problem I have is that it is being thrown back in my face several times since we had the discussion about it. It has only been four days since then, but it comes up numerous times a day. We are trying to plan our delayed honeymoon, and we had talked about Las Vegas. When they mention strip clubs there, she makes comments as to thats where I will be. It hurts me to know that my wife has these thoughts of me, but I understand where they stem from. I am ready to move on with our marriage and work on building the trust back. But, it is hard for me to even think straight when it is brought back up so often. Any advice will be helpful.

When your wife discovered your dishonesty it hurt her deeply.<P>She is probably afraid of what kind of future she will have with a "porn" adict. <P>Part of her loves you and wants to be close and trusting.<P>Another part of her wants to hurt you as bad as you hurt her.<P>It will take a great deal of patience from you to get past the pain and earn her trust back. <P>Have you read about Plan A on this site? <P>Keo