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#869354 06/02/00 04:40 PM
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Will someone please exlain to me what the "6 month rule" is with regard to affairs? I keep seeing this in other's messages and don't know what that means. Thanks.

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wings...<P> <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Most affairs last less than six months after they are exposed to the light of day. (page 83 of SAA)<HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>You'll also here about the "2 year" concept...<A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum28/HTML/000149.html" TARGET=_blank>2 year time frame?</A>…..already divorced…..1/22/2000<P> [Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]<P>Jim

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Thanks Jim...<BR>When you say, "exposed to the light of day" what if they are still kept in secret? I'm not certain this is going on, but it definitely has not been exposed. So do they "typically" last longer when no one knows but the two involved?

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Yes...<BR>...it should be out in "public" (or at least in your eyes) before the six months is normally counted... [Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]<P>This is really just an average...<BR>...it could be as little as D-Day...<BR>....or...gulp (like in my case) 1 year + (or more.)<P>Jim

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Thanks Wings, for asking that question. My H's affair has just reached the 6-month mark, but I don't think it's considered "exposed to the light of day." Me and a few of my close friends are the only people who know about it, and he (nor the OW) see ANY of these people ever. So anyone my H regularly deals with...co-workers, etc....knows anything about it. In fact, they don't even know we are separated!! <P>(I still get calls for him at home -apparently when he's on-call - and it drives me nuts 'cause I don't want to lie and so I just say "he's not here right now." I don't want to force him to tell them, cause there may be some reason he's not...maybe he still isn't sure about what he's doing?? I also don't want him to get in trouble at work, so I try to get ahold of him or leave a message on his voice mail.)<P>I still want to hope that some day he will want to come home and try to reconcile, but it's hard to keep hoping...and alot of days now, I'm not sure what I'd do if he did! I don't have many good feelings or much love in my love bank left for him (although at a very deep level, I love him dearly and would wait forever for him).....I'm trusting BIG TIME that if that does happen, God will give me His wisdom to know how to respond. <P>Aloha,<BR>Mrs.O<BR>


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