Mercy-<BR>thanks for your reply.<BR>Wondering if your spouse will ever forgive you is very hard. I think time will take care of this, and love. Continue to love him the best that you can, and I think after time, he will.<BR>I want to share something my husband said awhile back.<BR>He said my punishment for cheating on him<BR>( not that he IS trying to punish me )<BR>is...<BR>that he will never cheat on me.<BR>I spent alot of time thinking about that.<BR>It started making sense.<BR>I will always know that I broke our marriage vows, yet he never did.<BR>I suppose he thinks that if he cheated too, that it would make me feel better, knowing I cheated, so did he.That i was not the only "bad" one.<BR>Wierd thinking, I know,but it made sense to me.<P>Summertime -<BR>I understand what you are saying. However, if my husband had ever told me that he would never forgive me, and would always have resentment towards me for this, I do not know how I could continue in the marriage.<BR>( I am not saying you are doing this! )<BR>I need to know that SOMEDAY he WILL forgive me. Forgiveness needs to be a goal.<P>I think forginess is a gift, and a choice. You choose to forgive, you choose to let go of the anger, the resentment, and choose to look forward, instead of back.<BR>I am NOT saying you should have forgiven your husband by now - it is something you will do on your own, when the time feels right.Please know that this is something you will eventually need to do, in order to live again.<P>If a spouse is still in the affair, or is not showing remorse, then this is a different story. <BR>Summertime, I wish you happiness.
