Well my stbx H is deep in his mlc right now. I first started to suspect that things were not right last year when he started dieting and tanning. He also let his hair grow long and had pin striping done to his pickup. It wasn't long after that I discovered affair number 1. He has all of the signs. He talks alot about moving west. He had quit his job to start his own company. He now has the tips of his really dark brown hair died blonde just like the kids do. He says he is unhappy and feels lonely no matter who he is with. He feels like he is searching for something but doesn't know yet what it is he is searching for. The list goes on and on. Our choices are simple. We can either live and deal with the craziness that comes with MLC or we move on with our lives and maybe the man or woman we loved will reappear. After OW2 I have decided that my kids can't do this anymore so I am moving on. The big D is pretty much a done deal right now. My feeling is that if we are really meant to be together someday we will find eachother again. But for now I am moving forward. Kind of scarey though. I am 36 and I'm scared of all the men who are within my age range because they are all in the MLC range. <P>Jill

I guess I'll weigh in on this too. I also think a MLC played a part in my H's affair. He was unhappy with his life in general--work and our marriage in particular--and the affair was a result of this confusion and discontentment. However, now my H is in a full-blown depressive episode. He is questioning just about everything in his life. So I'd say it's a definite MLC. I'm going to have to check out the book everyone is recommending.

Hate to admit it...but I'm there. 40 year old, married 20 years...kids...use to laugh at the idea of it .<P>Depression snuck in on me...and the next thing I know, I've fallen in love with another woman.<P>Quite a deal.<P>It is for real...the MLC thing.<P>I wish I knew what to tell you women who have to endure this.