Hi,<P>First, I want to thank everyone here for their support and encouragement over the last several months. <P>Next, a quick update...<P>I confessed my EA and PA to my husband two weeks ago today. At first, I was really scared. We slept apart. My husband didn't want to be in the same room with me. I cried constantly. He cried constantly. It hurt just to look at him and know that I caused all of his pain. He despised looking at me because of what I had done to God, to him and to myself. <P>Much to my surprise, lots of healing can take place within a two week time period. Since confession night, we've both been to counseling and have poured over our Bibles and Harley's book "Surviving An Affair". We've spent time in prayer and in conversation together. We've treated each other with kindness and respect. We've taken care of each other emotionally. We've asked for hugs and given hugs. We're okay. We've smiled and laughed again. I've moved back into the bedroom (no sex...that won't happen for a long time). My husband doesn't want to leave me...he wants to fight for our marriage. I don't want to leave him, either. God is healing my heart and I'm learning to forgive myself. <P>Throught Christ, my husband is learning to love me in a whole new way, and I'm learning to love him in a whole new way...<P>We're both prepared that there will be "down" days...days where the memories of the pain come flooding back. But, for now, we're okay and we're loving each other the way we should've loved each other all along. We don't take our marriage lightly anymore...<P>I'm so thankful...<P>Just thought you guys would like to know...<P>Peace to all...<P>Jill

Congratulations Jill! You might also want to add Torn Asunder by Dave Carder to your reading list. It is the best book I've found on the subject of restoration after an affair. It is clear and concise and best of all, it is scripturally sound. It is the first and only book I've found that is written for the Christian couple who wants to rebuild their marriage.<P>I'm a little ahead of you on this journey....we are at the 2 1/2 year mark since my husband's brief affair was revealed and ended....and I can tell you that it is very possible to build a magnificent marriage. It is a process and it takes time and effort....with a large dose of faith and trust in God...but it is worth it!<P>------------------<BR>"They that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength. They shall mount up with wings as eagles, they shall run and not be weary, they shall walk and not faint." Isaiah 40:31

Jill,<P>That is such good news. What a great way to go into the weekend; hearing your story.<P>By the way, don't be so sure about it being a long time for sex. You both will need to reclaim you marriage. That is an excellent way. <P>But, somehow I expected to hear this news from you. Your description of your H and your deep concern for what you had done and how it would affect him, made me think that you two will be a success once you were working on the same team. You are now and it appears you are doing very well.<P>That is such good news.<P>God Bless,<P>JL

Jill...<P>What a lovely post! I am so glad to hear that things are going well for you guys. Keep taking care of each other...<P>Hugs--<P>Kathi

I am so happy to hear your good news! When we put Christ as the center of our lives and live in His will for our lives, we become "new creations". It is wonderful to hear this is happening for you, your H and your marriage. Remember Jill, that a three strand cord(you,H and God) is not easily broken! Blessings to you both.

I'm crying tears of joy for you Jill. I remember when you first posted. <P>You husband is a truly honorable man!<P>Do your best to use use the <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi3500_policy.html" TARGET=_blank>The Policy of Joint Agreement(POJA)</A> and the <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi3900_rules.html" TARGET=_blank>The Four Rules for a Successful Marriage</A>.<P>Keep on keeping on Jill, your blessings have only begun.<P>Bill<P><P>------------------<BR><P>May the roads rise to meet you,<BR>May the winds always be at your back,<BR>May the sun shine warm upon your face,<BR>The rains fall soft upon your fields,<BR>And until we meet again,<BR>May god hold you<BR>In the hollow of his hand.

Jill...<P>I couldn't be happier... <P>Check out...<A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum29/HTML/000288.html" TARGET=_blank>MB Concepts in Christian Scripture</A>...<BR>for more "Plan A" and "Rules for a Good Marriage" insights...<P> <P>Jim

Jill,<P>I remember you too and am very glad for you.<P>JL said exactly what I thought about sex. It was a big part of our recovery.

Jill,<P>I am glad to hear that things are going good for your H and you. I guess timing was everything in telling him.<BR>God bless you both.<BR><P>------------------<BR>Love and Prayers<BR>Nicole