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I do feel the same way. It's a huge trigger for me as well. Kind of sucks as virtually every other little girls name is the same as my H's OW.<P>When I was due to have our 3rd baby last May I had actually suggested her name if we had a girl, obviously before I knew of the affair. Yikes....

No you are not weird. If you want to hear weird, let me share with you my scenario. H's 1st financee was name S. <BR>H's current A OW is named S. Same name (can't say it here because H knows about this place and my user name). <P>Go figure. Both were and are you know whats. H fell hard for both. Guess he is into the worse you treat him the more faithful he is. I came along and treated him well gave him opportunities and get paid back with an A and many 1 nighters. So much for gratitude. <P>Now that's weird. Other acquaintances of ours now call her saliva instead of S. Close enough. <P>L.

No, you are not insane. I felt the same way about my ex's ow name. I think this is very normal. Now, I still am not fond of her name, but the funny thing is that during my divorce, (and my ex was breaking into my home taking whatever he wanted and trying to prove I was an unfit mother) a woman who I had never met in my neighborhood became a great friend. Guess what her name was? The same as the ow. This neighbor did so much for me. Anytime I was not home, she watched out for my house and called me immediately on my cell phone if my ex showed up. If it wasn't for this woman, who knows what all my ex would have done. And believe me...thanks to my neighbor...my ex was forced to stop his behavior because he did't know who was watching him. <P>My name is the same as your h's ow. Do I take offense to your feelings? Absolutely not! I know exactly how you feel. I hope that you will not instantly dislike me because we are not all like the ow. But with time the name will become easier to hear and deal with. I hope I have not offended you, but I just wanted you to know that your feelings are normal. Hang in there...it does get better!<P>Tulip

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PLEASE do not feel bad! This infidelity thing really gets to us all. I just wanted you to know that you're normal and we all have those feelings. Like I said before, I'm still not fond of the ow's name, but I am very thankful for the neighbor with the same name. Even today, I still make remarks about the ow's name. I know I probably shouldn't, but Gosh! It makes me feel better! And we all need that when were facing such a difficult situation. <P>Take care of yourself,<P>Tulip

I have big problems with OW's name, a very common one. I canceled our newspaper subcription because our carrier had the same name. Anytime I hear that name I immediately think "slut".

Try this one: the slug's name is the same as my sister and sister-in-law! I can't ever get away from it. So I don't refer to her as that - I refer to her as 'slug'.<P>------------------<BR>terri<BR><B>Courage</B><P>Whatever course you decide upon,<BR>there is always someone to tell you<BR>that you are wrong.<P>There are always difficulties arising<BR>which tempt you to believe that your <BR>critics are right.<P>To map out a course of action <BR>and follow it to an end <BR>requires courage.<P><I>Ralph Waldo Emerson</I>

Get this.... my stbxw boytoy lives in a different county, I don't like anyone with that county's number on thier license plate.... beat that hahahahahaha

Nope - nothing wrong with you....it has been a year and a half and my skin still crawls when I here 'her' name - but I guess there has been progress - I used to want to throw up...lol<P>

I am so happy the OW name is Gladys. How many Gladys do you meet under 80 years old? So I dont come across it too often.<BR>Lora

Esther - 14 yrs. ago<BR>Kara - 14 yrs. ago<BR>Madolyn - 14 yrs. ago<BR>Shannon - 2 yrs. ago<BR>Kathy - 1.5 yrs ago and present<P>(and assorted others with "names" like "big boob pool girl" "that girl that cried on your shoulder at work" and "meaningful hug woman" too)<P>Nah! I don't understand!! <P>**edit, edit, edit** and since I had an affair with a guy with a name you see everywhere... well...jeez... we couldn't even watch Monday night TV (Everybody Loves Raymond).<P>------------------<BR>~Sheryl<BR>(a bit worse for the wear, but hanging in there)<P><B>Life <I>is</I> difficult</B>.<BR><I>The Road Less Traveled</I><BR>~M. Scott Peck<P><p>[This message has been edited by new_beginning (edited April 07, 2001).]

Hello<P> How about a Magda?? My 19 year old D and I say Magduuuuh<P>------------------<BR>Deb

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Unfortunately, my H's OW's name is the same as mine! Apparently it bothers her at least as much as it bothers me, because awhile after my H moved in with her, she started going by a nickname that I have never used. Plus I am pretty sure her middle name is the same as my sister's, which would in turn make both her first and middle name the same as my mother's. And she lives in the town in which my H and I had our first apartment.

Hey New Beginning, my H's OW's name is Esther also. Can't even open the bible without seeing it! yuk. I wonder if it's the OW...Would she be 40 this year?????

Hey TT, nice to "see" ya!!<P>Esther **would** be about 40 this year!!!!(tee hee)<P>Hmmm... is her H is a psychologist? Also, her H is the one who came to me to discuss the affair... that was a first for me. I suppose it was 'cause he's a therapist and knew what needed to be done... he got her preggers and out of that school so fast your head would spin! Smart guy... or maybe not... never good to bring a baby into a troubled marriage...<P>But if she were one in the same...that would be WAAAAAY-icky, wouldn't it?<P><P>------------------<BR>~Sheryl<BR>(a bit worse for the wear, but hanging in there)<P><B>Life <I>is</I> difficult</B>.<BR><I>The Road Less Traveled</I><BR>~M. Scott Peck

sometimes im thankful h has been dating Ladelle, but then i know he calls her Dell, and looking at my computer of the same brand makes me kind of sick. at least ive never met another person with that name!!!!

Guess what? My name and the OW's name are exactly the same. Is my husband wierd or what. Furthermore, her sister's name is L and so is mine. Could he not be more original?