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#954039 10/26/01 10:08 AM
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<p>[ October 26, 2001: Message edited by: Fighting4us ]</p>

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Fighting,<p>I'm sorry to read about your pain. It's not going to be easy. Can you give us some background to your situation. I've only been able to find 2 posts from you.<p>take care,<p>- Freddy

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Fighting,<p>I can't find the postings from your wife but I do remember somebody posting a story about theire husband being involved with Internet porn and themselves.<p>Whatever the situation, it's important for you to stop it. Block all sex related websites from your PC. Just don't go there. And show your wife what you've done. She will need to be convinced about your committment. Also, stop playing with yourself. Give your wife a chance to meet your needs.<p>I need to jump out of here for a while but keep posting. We'll help if we can and we understand what's going on.<p>take care,<p>- Paul.

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Fighting,<p>We're going to Retrouvaille this weekend--is that what you all are doing?<p>Anyway, because of that I have a lot to do to get ready, so I don't know if I'll be able to get back here to read up on your and your W's story today, but right off I totally identified with what your W told you. I feel exactly as she described to you, though I have not told my H that and have been doing plan A.<p>It might help you to know that if I could hear and see the same depth of remorse from my H that you are expressing here, it would help keep my hopes up, so I think you're on the right track. But don't fall too far into the abyss of self-condemnation, because you need strength to help your W.<p>Keep telling her you're sorry. Keep taking responsibility for what you did. Keep demonstrating in every way possible (and you will probably have to brainstorm constantly for new ways to do this) that you are not going to do it anymore and that you are fully committed to her and to doing whatever you can to help heal her wounds. These are the things I need from my H, so I hope that may be similar to what your W needs.<p>Conqueror

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Hi Fighting4us,<p>You are in a hard spot. The one with the fix is mostly you but your W needs to understand where you are and where you both want to be. <p>It does take 2 to make the recovery work. It sounds as if your W is in a withdrawal period. This will be a hard time and maybe later tonight I can share what helped me as a BS understand and not give up on my WS and marriage. Your W has more support than I have or had. She needs to be aware of that. <p>I will try to post more tonight. <p>Take Care,
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Thanks for the support. I was having a bad time of it this morning but I'm feeling up to taking on the fight again.


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