I’ve been thinking a lot about something my husband said yesterday. He said that if he comes back home it will be so much work.<p>It made me realize that along the way, we lost sight of (or maybe never realized) the fact that marriage is work! <p>Why is it that we continue to read and get as much information as we can on how to be better in our jobs, raise our kids, clean our house, organize our lives, etc, but we don’t realize that we have to educate ourselves on how to make our marriage better and be a better spouse.<p>I have learned so much these last couple of months. I’ve learned because I took the time to educate myself on what it takes to be a better person and have a better marriage. No matter what happens between my husband and me, I have become a better person, and for that I am grateful. <p>In the past, whenever a newly engaged couple asked me if I had any marital advice I would say “Keep your arguments to yourself, don’t gripe about your spouse, because long after you forgive and forget, the person who you griped to will always remember what you said about your spouse and may not be as forgiving”. I still believe that, but now I will add what I have learned from posting here and from the many, many articles and books I have read on making a better marriage.<p>I don’t even know why I am posting this, I guess to see if anyone else feels this way, the had I known then what I know now (which I’m sure a lot of us do). And more importantly to reinforce to myself that I now have the tools to make my marriage better than ever, I am confident of that, I just hope and pray that I will have the opportunity to do so.
