Hi,

I am writing to forum so I can learn to repair my marriage. My wife and I have been arguing and bickering over the past couple years. A couple of weeks of ago she approached me about a separation, I was in shock. I knew we had issues and I felt that they would be resolved once I retire and have a career change. We are currently in counseling. It turns out I have a quarrelsome and nagging wife as the article states. I am changing my ways but I keep getting arguments from her when I plan on doing things to help her. What should I do? Should I keep doing what I am doing and ignore her negative comments? I think the stress of the pandemic lock-down and our difficulties of conceiving children are some factors. I have also been slacking on the responsibilities around the house and recently recovered from some depression issues. Any feedback would be greatly appreciated, thanks in advance.

She was 24 and probably at her most desirable, and she married an older man with a kid. Within 2 years she has an affair, and then another.

I don't know that she was ever as invested in this marriage as you were. She certainly seems to have fallen out of love quickly. I don't really see what there is to keep her there now, after 2 affairs.