My story isn't that extreme, but still very bothersome to me.<P>My wife, after discovery 6 months ago, was going to fight me for custody of the children She claimed she loved them and wanted them with her and her OM. But.. in August when she found out she can't take them across state lines (just to live with OM) she gave up fighting and has agreed to a visitation schedule. She moved out to an apartment (on my money... for partial divorce settlement... and then OM moved in with her! I thought for sure she would want to see them frequently (W and OM live about 1 1/2 hours away) Our agreement is that she sees them every other weekend (I wanted her to see them EVERY weekend... keep binding with them) and she said she'd be back 2 or 3 times per week (during the midweek).<P>She has come back only ONCE (midweek) since she moved out (seven weeks ago.)<P>She rarely calls... maybe 4 times since moving out.<P>It bothers all 3 kids (17yo boy, 10yo boy and 7yo girl.)<P>I can't understanding giving up almost all maternal instincts like that.<P>And even when she has had them for visitations (3 times so far) she will never spend time with them alone... OM always has to be present. I think she wants to get them use to him being a "good" father figure... ha!<P>She seems to be pulling away from them more and more as the weeks go on. I feel real bad for my kids.
<P>I hope she snaps out of this....<P>I haven't seen the movie yet...<BR>I'm not sure I will (if it is a heartbreaker)<P>I hope my wife (and OM... with his two kids from first marriage... yes, he is still married to his second wife) sees it! Maybe it will jar something in their pysche that "hey... there's something wrong here!"<P>Jim