David & Sheryl,<P>It is very hard for you both I do know that for sure. I know how I felt and now I know much better how my H felt too.<P>For so long we got so wrapped up in our pain and hurt that neither one of us thought that the other could understand or even wanted to, sometimes I suppose that was true to an extent but through it all we did still love each other very much.<P>It is very hard to be open and honest about your feelings, especially when its hard for you to understand them yourself at times.<P>David...<BR>I am sure, no I am positive that no one here on this board was trying to male bash you in any way, but its like someone above said it is hard to understand your side when we don't know it. So I am asking you to please share with us. Sharing is hard too but you both obviously love each other and we really would like to help.<P>I know it may have seemed as if I was trying to talk Sheryl into leaving you but that was not my advice at all. My advice was for her to try and let go and stop trying to fix everything and give you some time to work things out for yourself and herself as well and then work it out together.<P>Sheryl...<P>Try to give yourself and your H a little more time. I know this whole situation consumes you and for the most part it is the only thing that is thought about by both of you, but there is light at the end of the tunnel ---- I PROMISE YOU BOTH THERE IS!!
<P>David again I ask you to share with us, you may find that it is a much easier way to try and communicate with Sheryl as well. We all will be glad to be an advocate for you too.<P>I wish you both the best and happier times are ahead for you guys.<P>{{{{{{{{{{HUGS TO YOU BOTH}}}}}}}}}}}}}}<BR>Love <BR>Genie