Hi girls. I don't come to the computer as often as before, so sometimes it takes a bit until I right back. You know how it goes: Trying to do in the last week before going back to work, all the things that I should have done during the summer !
<BR>Debb, sometimes my H starts watching tv and then falls asleep. From them on, as much as I try to get him t come to bed, it's an impossible task, so I understand the feeling. Sometimes I just get onto the sofa myself limiting his space until he's unconfortable enough to wake up and go to bed!
<BR>Lilly, counselling can help not only with the relationship ( or lack of it
) but also with all the issues around it that are affecting us. I found it quite postive even though we just went to about 6 sessions. Keep in mind, however, that things got a bit worse, before they got better even after counseling.<BR>Sheba twin!!! Missed you.<BR>No we didn't go alone. His cousin did go with us, which wasn't really that bad. I was a bit worried because although he's really nice, since he has been divorced for about 10 years and alone ever since, he has this thing about doing guys things. The last time he went camping with us - but that was some years ago - he was expecting my H to go with himhere and there while I stayed back in the park with my daughter ( the little one wasn't even born!). I grew up in a family where people used to do things together so I didn't like it that much, ut this time I talked with H and told him that I expected to go wherever he went, no staying behind while they went here or there - even if it was just the store
- . The good thing is that he agrred with me and told me he had no intention of doing so. Good!
<BR>Had a bit of a down spot just before going camping, but we're working on it.It's about something that I noticed ever since the affair: H is the same person he was before except in one thing he became harsher, tougher, not only with me, even with friends or at work. I wonder if this side effect will ever go away - I don't like it too much.<BR>Read your other post, but I'm not sure I made any sense because I didn't have time to read all the posts since the last time - there were so many!<BR>Hope hubbies confusion is a good sign
.<BR>Take care<BR>Big hugs to you all\Kat