Any solutions for dealing with the fears? - 01/11/00 10:14 PM
Things are going pretty well here, but tomorrow my H is going out of town until Friday night. Logically if I think about it, I am ok with everything. However every time he leaves for an out of town trip, I lose it. I deep down believe that he is faithful now, but the pain and fear that comes with the out of town trips takes control of my mind and I become a love bustin fool. He loves me and I don't want to make life miserable. He is usually very understanding of my feelings, but my reactions when he leaves are getting old (for both of us). He only met with OW on out of town trips for work. We have been working on the recovery and things have been getting better. There has been some talk about some training which would include up to six days apart. I am a stay at home mom and I am afraid of these trips. I really don't know if anyone has any advice to help me deal with my emotions. I have also learned from a dear friend that I can't control him, he will do what he wants and my behavior may influence his decisions, but I can't try to control him. So I need help figuring out how to solve my problem without making him feel bad because he does have to travel some for his job. <p>[This message has been edited by Monique (edited January 11, 2000).]