questions, questions, questions - 01/13/00 02:18 AM
I am probabally driving you all nuts, as this is my 3rd post in 2 days. It is so great to be able to vent like this, and I think it helps me to not "always be talking about it" with my husband as he complains about. We are using "His Needs, Her Needs" and the book talks about H going through withdrawl over not seeing OW, and that he will always love her (that is hard to handle!) But H says he feels nothing for her. I know him, and there is no way that he can tell some one that he loves them, and then boom, feel nothing. I can't help wondering if, 1) he is just trying to spare my feelings, 2) since he sees her every night at work, maybe he hasn't had to go through the withdrawl yet, (remember she works for him) 3) maybe it isn't as "over" as he says. <BR>I'm sorry you all, I told you this is all I think about, it is almost an obsession. My feelings are really, really scary to me. I can honestly say that in over 20 years of marriage I have never felt jelousy, or distrust before. And especially I have never ever "hated" anyone before. I pray that God will take away those feelings especially. I know that it is H fault just as much or more, but she knew what she was doing too, she knew he was married, and she is still after him hot & heavy. One thing I will not do is feel sorry for her, like H does. I don't care that she may be hurt, I hope she is. I wish on her just 10% what I am going through.<P><BR>This is a really bad letter, sorry