withdrawal - 08/17/99 05:36 AM
I need some clarification on withdrawal and snooping. My h told me about his affair seventeen days ago. He promised not to have any contact with the ow and to continue counseling. He had said he hadn't had any contact with her but this morning I found, by accident, that he had a secret e-mail account and they had been e-mailing a couple of times. He said he thought she needed an explanation about what was going on since she sent him a nasty note. I didn't get angry but that all I had asked for was the truth. I thanked him for telling it to me.He is only home to decide if he wants her or our marriage. I've been trying plan A. He has always liked to take rides in his car when he has been upset or needs to think. Of course he is doing that now. This really bothers me. I don't feel I can trust him but what choice do I have? He said he wants to see her to explain what is happening. After all, she has feelings too.I know if he sees her we have to start at the beginning with withdrawal but what about that e-mail?