I AM A CONFUSED WIFE. I LOVE MY DEAR HUSBAND DEARLY AND THERE IS NO DOUBT ABOUT THAT. I HAVE NEVER CHEATED WITH HIM. MY QUESTIONS IS, IS THAT I CALL THE PHONE SEX LINE WHEN MY HUSBAND DOESN'T WANT TO HAVE SEX. IS THIS CONSIDERED CHEATING?? SHOULD I STOP?

The true answer is not going to come from someone else, it comes from your heart! Think about it... if you know in your heart that what you're doing is wrong, whether you're sleeping with another guy or just talking on an intimacy level, then the answer would probably be "yes" you are cheating. That's something you have to realize yourself. After you've realized the problem, try to fix it. Erase those sex-line phone numbers from your notepad and don't even think about calling.

Do you find your husband attractive enough to talk to him like you do with the other men on that line?

Are you bored with your sex life?

How often does your husband turn you down when you ask for sex?

What you need to do is sit down with him, maybe at dinner, and talk to him about it. Do NOT mention that you were calling that sex-line. I know it's wrong to say, but sometimes facts like that could just make thing alot worse. Really talk to him. Let him know what your physical needs are and how they can be met. Trust me, I would be all over my wife every single day if she came out and toldme that!

Good luck!