Help - how to handle fights - 07/22/07 04:41 PM
well im new here and have looked around at some of the Q&A and really havent seen anything to help me so i thought id post here
Me and my wife were married in october 2006, before that we`ve been together on and off 5 years, we are 24 years old
the problem is we are always fighting about taking care of the house and chores, my wife is a messy person, even more so recently and i try my best to keep the house clean and pick up after her but sometimes it just gets to be too much and we end up in a fight.
It seems im the only one to cook, clean and do laundry while she comes home from work or spends her days off laying around watching tv, Currently im on medical leave from work after having knee surgery from a nasty fall so while me being home all day she says she shouldnt have to do anything, at all, sence shes the one working but things were this way while i was working a fulltime job, im suppose to be recovering, ive even asked her just to help make things easier on me by not leaving her clothes all over the house and helping with laundry so i dont have to climb the stairs that im not supposed to be on but she refuses or promises daily but never does, then we end up in fights and me just asking her to not make messes that make it harder on me but she doesnt want to here it and says i dont do anything around the house at all
is asking for some team work asking too much?
sometimes i dont know how much longer we are going to make it
Me and my wife were married in october 2006, before that we`ve been together on and off 5 years, we are 24 years old
the problem is we are always fighting about taking care of the house and chores, my wife is a messy person, even more so recently and i try my best to keep the house clean and pick up after her but sometimes it just gets to be too much and we end up in a fight.
It seems im the only one to cook, clean and do laundry while she comes home from work or spends her days off laying around watching tv, Currently im on medical leave from work after having knee surgery from a nasty fall so while me being home all day she says she shouldnt have to do anything, at all, sence shes the one working but things were this way while i was working a fulltime job, im suppose to be recovering, ive even asked her just to help make things easier on me by not leaving her clothes all over the house and helping with laundry so i dont have to climb the stairs that im not supposed to be on but she refuses or promises daily but never does, then we end up in fights and me just asking her to not make messes that make it harder on me but she doesnt want to here it and says i dont do anything around the house at all
is asking for some team work asking too much?
sometimes i dont know how much longer we are going to make it