how do you handle spouse who goes to the bar after work? - 02/20/08 03:37 PM
Opinions please.
Have you ever come home to an empty house, and have to call around to find out where your spouse is? And then find out he is in the "gin mill" with a divorced friend.and it is always this same guy who drags him to the bar?
No phone call...geez, I have never domne this to my spouse. And this happens on his company time, while he is driving the company vehicle. And then, he starts a fight with me when he gets home. (He is a mean drunk).
This a.m. H tells me he is doing an "overtime" job....with this same guy. (Code for we are going drinking...this I have figured out after having it happen too often)
There is no diplomatic way for me to ask him exactl are you working, or going to a bar? No nice way, and right now I feel like a doormat.
(This behavior of this divorced man is part of the REASON he is divorced)
Have you ever come home to an empty house, and have to call around to find out where your spouse is? And then find out he is in the "gin mill" with a divorced friend.and it is always this same guy who drags him to the bar?
No phone call...geez, I have never domne this to my spouse. And this happens on his company time, while he is driving the company vehicle. And then, he starts a fight with me when he gets home. (He is a mean drunk).
This a.m. H tells me he is doing an "overtime" job....with this same guy. (Code for we are going drinking...this I have figured out after having it happen too often)
There is no diplomatic way for me to ask him exactl are you working, or going to a bar? No nice way, and right now I feel like a doormat.
(This behavior of this divorced man is part of the REASON he is divorced)