Wife Not Informing Me About Using My Credit Card - 05/16/09 01:47 PM
A few days ago, my wife blew up at me when I questioned her about a credit card charge that she made. She claims that she informed me about it in advance, but I do not remember her communicating it to me. I saw the bill in my name and was shocked. If I truly expected it, then I would not have been upset. The charge was small, but I am very anal about my finances and do not offer any apologies about it whatsoever. I have been married to her long enough to know along with her snotty ways that she would have treated me like I killed someone if the situation was reversed.
She started throwing in my face the fact that she has more credit cards than I will ever have. I did not let this bother me because I am not the one with bill collectors calling me. I have been burned in the past by family for misusing my finances. As a result, I am very careful when it comes to credit regardless of who it is.
I have told her about what my family did to me at the time. She uses it as a weapon when we argue before calling me insulting and hurtful names. She needs to realize that she cannot talk to people anyway she feels like. One day, I am afraid that she is going to say something to someone who will not be her "good soldier" and grin and take it.
How can I deal with her without losing my cool and stooping to her level? I am seven years younger than her and am more serious about life and business than she is. I do not take money and business for a joke. I refuse to apologize for being disciplined in with my finances.
She started throwing in my face the fact that she has more credit cards than I will ever have. I did not let this bother me because I am not the one with bill collectors calling me. I have been burned in the past by family for misusing my finances. As a result, I am very careful when it comes to credit regardless of who it is.
I have told her about what my family did to me at the time. She uses it as a weapon when we argue before calling me insulting and hurtful names. She needs to realize that she cannot talk to people anyway she feels like. One day, I am afraid that she is going to say something to someone who will not be her "good soldier" and grin and take it.
How can I deal with her without losing my cool and stooping to her level? I am seven years younger than her and am more serious about life and business than she is. I do not take money and business for a joke. I refuse to apologize for being disciplined in with my finances.