My husband and I who have been together almost 8 yrs. have never got along. I think our personalities are so similar that we have a hard time diffusing the fighting and bickering. We have agreed that our daughter is keeping us together. I think we love eachother, but is that enough? We have tried counseling before, but it doesn't seem to help. How do you know when to call it quits? I am sooo sad and confused. I am worried what a divorce would do to our daughter. I need some advice...please help.

Hello,<P>Have you gone through the basic concepts on this site? <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi3000_intro.html" TARGET=_blank>http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi3000_intro.html</A> <BR>Hearing the previously recorded programs and concepts at the bottom of this page also helps: <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi4200_radio.html" TARGET=_blank>http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi4200_radio.html</A> <P>I always am hopeful for marriages, love is enough to me...and in fact is a good foundation. It is all of that 'stuff' that comes after it that seems to be hard to maintain or juggle.<P>You are likely at a point where certain things do work and certain things you know absolutely cannot continue to work as they do. <P>When you 'fight' and 'bicker', is it over things you constantly seem to argue about that never seem to get more resolution? <BR>How have you worked to resolve them in the past?<BR>Name some specifics...that might be easier to tackle than an in general situation.<P>Have you considered reading Dr Harley's books or counseling with Dr Harley?<BR>It's likely you could get a lot of info off the concepts site. Fill out that emotional needs questionairre too...that is a good starting place... <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi4501_enq.html" TARGET=_blank>http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi4501_enq.html</A> <P>Hope this helps.<BR>Y