My soon to be husband is constantly playing softball, and we can't seem to find anything to do together, i need some kind of survey or something to help us find out what we could enjoy together, any suggestions? HELP!!! oh by the way my idea of quality time is not sitting on the sidlines and wathing all day, and i don't enjoy softball!! i really need help!!<P>------------------<BR>dawn k

<BR>hi,<BR>what do you enjoy doing?What does he like to do beside softball?<BR>How about just jogging together in the mornings or at midnight?Pick a time thats good for both of you.It usually opens communication for us.<BR>maxini<BR><P>------------------<BR>they that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength

thanks maxini, that sounds like a good idea, that is what we are working on finding. i printed the recreational survey off of this website. so we are going to take that. the problem is i don't know what i like, i have never been into sports a whole lot any suggestions?

Competition and games are strong forces for most men. Softball is just a form of this for your man. Try buying a deck of cards and a book on card games and try a few games together. It gives you time together, something to do with your hands and also gives that competive feel for him. You don't need to go to every game, just go to some. Men enjoy showing off doing manly things. I know it's silly but the grunts, scratching and spitting while swinging a club is a way we say "look at me, I am strong and a leader of men, I can protect you." Very silly and primal thing but that's just the way God wired our brains.<p>[This message has been edited by Joe in TX (edited May 08, 2000).]

joe, thanks for the tip!! he is a very competitive man and loves the attention from me and everyone else!! but by what dr. harley is saying, we should do pretty much everything together. i don't want to take his softball away from him, just for him to cut down and for us to find a sport we can do together. i think we may try golf. <P>------------------<BR>dawn k