"Church Wedding" Important?? - 02/07/00 11:15 PM
Please help me decide whether this is important or not. My husband and I have been married for 2 years. When we were legally married, he promised me that we would eventually marry in church. We decided to marry rather quickly due to his immigration situation and didn't make a big deal at the time because we did have our church wedding in mind. He moved here from another country to be with me. During these 2 years, he has become less and less interested in getting married through the church, yet this remains very important to me. He says that he feels it's all just a waste of money (the dress, the tuxedo, the bouquet, the reception..etc). I feel that we've missed out on something very special and very important...God's blessing. I know it's tradition and to some people this may not be important, but to me it is. I don't really care about the dress, the flowers, the party. etc. I care about being in God's house with the man I love and stating our vows in God's presence. I feel bad that our parents and families never had the chance to share in our "marriage experience" and he's often told me that this is all just a childish illusion. We are both very dedicated to going to church every Sunday and we each have our own personal relationship with God, but I still feel like we should fulfill this sacrament. If it were up to me, I wouldn't even have a big party, or follow all those "material traditions" that come with a wedding. I just want us to have that moment. Please tell me if I'm just being childish and unrealistic and feel free to share any suggestions with me about how I can talk to my husband about this. Thank you!