Now at the 5.5 month mark of Plan B and I have been doing quite well. No contact with WH since June.

I have been away from MB for the past 2-3 months trying not to focus on my marriage/separation situation, and I have been feeling quite successful in moving on.

Actually, I have moved on. Yet something has been on my mind lately.

I guess I am just feeling the effects of total and utter rejection. Having issued the Plan B conditions, he has gone off into the sunset with OW, and even though it may have all ended with her, there is no sign that he wishes to contact me at all.

And why should I care whether he contacts me?!! I don't know!!! I see him for what he really was during the marriage; I realise that I was merely just another possession in this man's life. I don't want to be married to him. So, why am I torturing myself by waiting to hear from him?

Maybe I am seeking an apology. Say it is all over with OW, am I really expecting WH to front up and tell me he is sorry for what he put me through?

I am a bit unsettled right now, which is unfortunate, since I had felt that I was really moving on and leaving this situation behind me. I want WH to contact me and then I don't want him to contact me.

Should I expect to hear from him again?


( By the way, I ran my first ever half marathon yesterday, 1 hour, 54 mins! Today is a little painful, however <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> )

Congratualations on your success in running a half marathon!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Healing times for everyone differs. Your WH might not have come so far in his recovery as you. Of course you're feeling the rejection, I'm sure that's a normal emotion and your wishes for contact are par for the course.

Allow yourself the freedom to feel what you are and perhaps they too will pass!

Much peace in your continuing recovery!

Hey Claire - I was wondering how you were doing. I understand completely needing to take an MB holiday - I do that too from time to time.

First congratulatons on the improvements you have made in your life, and such an impressive half marathon time - good on you!!!

Claire, who knows what happens with some WS. You know that nothing you did or said could change where he was headed. It will sometimes be difficult for you. I think it is perfectly natural for you to have some doubts and thoughts about whether or not you want to contact him.

I know my situation was somewhat odd as I had been WS and then became BS, but frankly, I don't think my X would have contacted me at all if I hadn't done him.

I'm sorry this isn't much help, but keep working on yourself. Your have had such a terrible experience it inevitably takes time to come through and out the other side. But I believe you will.

Take care and wishing you well from London.

Lisa