Solon...

How are ya doing? Haven't heard from you in a while... L&C and I where just saying last night that you seem to be kinda quiet... so, here i am, calling ya out....what's the good word?

WMWB! How have YOU guys been?

You know the life, up one day down the next. I have been seriously contemplating filing for divorce. I don't know what she is thinking or doing but it seems to me that if I make the move first it would further my chances of getting sole custody, opposed to if she files first and then I answer. It seems that the courts would say, "If it/she was that bad why didn't you file when she moved out?" I just kind of think for credibility purposes it may serve in my favor if I make the first move. But then again...I don't want to make any moves because I don't know where her head is and what she is thinking. I'm still dark with her though, have been for this whole year <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />
My birthday was the 7th. She called to speak to the children and all she said to me was "Are the children awake? Thank you.". So that's that.

What about you two? What has been going on with you all's wives? How is L&C? Is he still L&C? Or is he just C now? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> Is your wife still going through with the divorce?

Well I don't know about the courts where you are, but the first thing i did before going to plan B was to call my attorney and ask if there was ANY advantage to filing first... in terms os the kids or anything... and he said without a doubt NO!!! The courts don't care who files and who is the respondant. It doesn't matter, this is a "no fault " state.

You stay dark and do nothing... play defense all the way!!!! Let her make all the moves. I just reviewed and signed the response to the petition for dissolusion on Tuesday of this week. I feel an overwhelming sense of liberation. I can see the light at the end of the tunnel and that is very calming to me. I don't think she will ever come back and at this point (given all the stuff I've uncovered) I don't think I even care. Good ridance to her, life goes on.

Wow, you sure hit the nail on the head there... L&C is not so much L but is big time C...!!!! This guy has more opportunities than you could shake a stick at and has no idea what to do with any of it... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> (just kidding dude...drop the lumber!!!) I think he is doing pretty well, you know different people adjust in different ways, what ever works for ya...run with it.

Happy birthday to ya!!! What did you do on the day?, sounds like you had the kids.... did you guys do anything fun?

Yeah, me and the kids had a good time. They took me out to eat and we just spent the day together (I took off of work). It was nice.

I was waiting for my attorney to call me back on the advantages of filing first. If that is the case I will definitely wait to see what she does. Apparently, she is getting pressure from the other side to file, so she may actually be doing that now as I type. But...I will just wait and see.

Well, I am glad to hear that you have peace in all of this. Not speaking to my wife and knowing that I will not be speaking with her is soothing to me. At times, the madness of it all gets to me, but, like you said, life does go on. I will really like to see how all of this plays out in like, 2 to 5 years. Maybe all three of us would be married again...to our wives <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

Keep in touch.