2 yrs and 4 months into Recovery...update - 02/12/04 07:43 PM
WOW......it's been so long since I've posted. I can't believe that I stayed away as long as I have.
Actually it's a good thing. It makes me realize how strong I've become over the last 3 years.
Almost 2 1/2 years into Recovery and everything is going well. Won't say it's perfect as nothing is.....but it's as good as we make it. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
I no longer feel the urge to "watch" my H.
I no longer feel the need to ask him how he feels on a regular basis to reasure myself.
I no longer have "triggers".....even seeing the XOW's H on a daily basis doesn't bother me.
Actually I surprised my H a couple of weeks ago......
We happened to go down the street that she used to live on (my H pretty much moved in with her at this address) and my youngest daughter (5) mentioned that that was where "OW" lived. I didn't react at all. I just ignored the statement and let my H handle it.
He handled it well.....he said yes....but she isn't part of our lives anymore and it hurts mommy to remember that sometimes, and that we were going to move on and forget that she was ever part of our lives.
Of course she was NEVER a part of my life.....but she was my H's and my D's....whether they wanted her to be or not.
Can't blame my daughters for remembering.
Anyway....it doesn't bother me anymore....when something like that comes up with our daughters....I let him take care of it. I didn't ask for it...didn't cause it and I took care of enough while I was going through it. He does a really good job of handeling it.
Anyway.....we are finally out of his parents house.....YIPEE.....and we are now financially stable......so much so that H is planning our vacation for this year....just us and the girls....no in-laws. DisneyWorld here we come!!
Our relationship is stronger than ever. Takes work every day.....but making it work is half the fun. Ups and downs yes.....but now....mostly ups.
Our daughters (13, 7 and 5) are growing by leaps and bounds....mentally and physically. I'm so glad to see them happy again and having a loving relationship with their dad.
As for me.....still a SAHM and loving it for the time being. Learning something new every day and taking it all in.
Well...that's about it for now.
For those of you still on the "train"....do not despair. I'm not a religious person.....but God gives you nothing more than you can handle.
Hugs to all! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
Heather
Actually it's a good thing. It makes me realize how strong I've become over the last 3 years.
Almost 2 1/2 years into Recovery and everything is going well. Won't say it's perfect as nothing is.....but it's as good as we make it. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
I no longer feel the urge to "watch" my H.
I no longer feel the need to ask him how he feels on a regular basis to reasure myself.
I no longer have "triggers".....even seeing the XOW's H on a daily basis doesn't bother me.
Actually I surprised my H a couple of weeks ago......
We happened to go down the street that she used to live on (my H pretty much moved in with her at this address) and my youngest daughter (5) mentioned that that was where "OW" lived. I didn't react at all. I just ignored the statement and let my H handle it.
He handled it well.....he said yes....but she isn't part of our lives anymore and it hurts mommy to remember that sometimes, and that we were going to move on and forget that she was ever part of our lives.
Of course she was NEVER a part of my life.....but she was my H's and my D's....whether they wanted her to be or not.
Can't blame my daughters for remembering.
Anyway....it doesn't bother me anymore....when something like that comes up with our daughters....I let him take care of it. I didn't ask for it...didn't cause it and I took care of enough while I was going through it. He does a really good job of handeling it.
Anyway.....we are finally out of his parents house.....YIPEE.....and we are now financially stable......so much so that H is planning our vacation for this year....just us and the girls....no in-laws. DisneyWorld here we come!!
Our relationship is stronger than ever. Takes work every day.....but making it work is half the fun. Ups and downs yes.....but now....mostly ups.
Our daughters (13, 7 and 5) are growing by leaps and bounds....mentally and physically. I'm so glad to see them happy again and having a loving relationship with their dad.
As for me.....still a SAHM and loving it for the time being. Learning something new every day and taking it all in.
Well...that's about it for now.
For those of you still on the "train"....do not despair. I'm not a religious person.....but God gives you nothing more than you can handle.
Hugs to all! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
Heather