Ex's stepmom told me ex called his dad to tell them he got married. He was sent away to train/get qualified for duty in Iraq (he didnt qualify was sent home w/in a month) his girls have not seen or heard from him since b4 he left. We didnt know he was gone..his wife/ex friend called after i called his dad that he missed court (court for him NOT paying child support.) I am melting down...one year ago in january he moved out of our home w/his daughter and our daughter for HER and he filed for D and now...they are married. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

The girls are very very upset, mad, sad..The littlest says "she betrayed me and you" and his daughter says that she wanted to see him but now doesnt. AND ME...i am GUYS...I AM DYING!! I thought i had it under control...NO..i thought i guess this would NEVER happen..guess it did.. now what........ <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" /> <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" /> <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" /> <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />

kuljey:

I'm sorry 2 hear your news. I guess there's just no explaining some people's behavior. I find it more than a little alarming that he would abandon his kids this way. But he has.

It's true, though. You're better off without that kind of "husband".

Now it's up 2 them 2 beat the statistics. The odds are WAY against them.

-ol' 2long

well, i guess i can think they may or may not beat the stats...it seems like the waiting to see is killin me..and gosh why do i care?????????!!!

we were going thru mediation for visitation and the mediator/social worker closed our case because EX didnt seem like he wanted to be a part of the childrens life. Sooooo, i wonder if our last agreement for visitation (*3 hours MAX 1x a wk/w/o GF/New wife stands..ex set it up so that SHE wasnt w/them) is the one we follow or if its just NO visitation!

kuljey,

((((((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))))

So sorry to hear your news. <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" /> Concentrate on you k....and rebuilding your life as an individual. Get a good IC if you can and let that relationship self-destruct on it's own. Deal with your financial issues....is he paying child support?