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A few sites often mentioned as useful by forum members.
Please feel free to post a reply so more can be added...
...or contact OneGoing at OneGoing@hotmail.com.

Marriage Sites
The Marriage Movement
Infidelity.com (#1 Infidelity Support Network)
Dr. Bonnie (Eaker Weil, Phd.), Adultery Buster in Cyberspace[/u]
[u]Smart Marriages
article(Getting Beyond Betrayal)
Exceptional Marriages
Divorce Busting
World Wide Marriage Encounter[/u]
[u]Retrouvaille

General Realtionships
Relationship-growth
Relationshipweb
Loving you
Light Your Fire

Affairs/Infidelity/Trust
When A Spouse Is Unfaithful
Vaughan-Vaughan
Affairs Help
Articles about Affairs (Dear Peggy)[/u]
[u]Article by Dr. James Dobson (June 2000)[/u]

Self Help
[u]Self Help Articles

Anger Management
Anger & Stress Managemen...riages and Relationships in Conflict

Abuse
Dr. Irene's Verbal Abuse Site[/u]

Suicide
[u]National Hopeline Network... 1-800-SUICIDE (1-800-784-2433)[/u]
[u]Suicide and Suicide Prevention[/u]

Loss/Hurt/Pain
[u]Surviving Loss
BROKENNESS BRINGS BLESSING

Adultery
Adultery

Divorce Recovery
Divorce Recovery Seminar

Depression / Antidepressant Therapies(Cognitive Therapy)
Understanding Depression
Intimacy & Depression[/u]

MidLife Crisis (thanks to scandanavian)
[u]Forum: The Midlife Crisis
Midlife crisis
Midlife and Mid-life Crisis

Narcissistic Personality Disorder
Narcissistic Personality Disorder[/u]

Dangers of Online Relationships
[u]What They're Not Telling You - Or How to Read Between the Lies!![/u]
[u]Internet Infidelity Prevention, Detection, Advice and Books[/u]
[u]Welcome to SexHelp.com...Dr. Carnes' Resources for Sex Addiction & Recovery[/u]
[u]SEX ADDICTION RECOVERY RESOURCES[/u]

12 Steps to Recovery
[u]Prayers for Each of the 12 Steps[/u]

Forgiveness
[u]Forgiveness is a Gift You Give Yourself[/u]
[u]The Forgiveness Web

Motivational Quotes
Forgiveness Skills
Motivational Quotes

Lawyer Search
Martindale-Hubbell Lawyer Search[/u]
Note: Do a search within your county... look for only "family law" specialists(>80% in divorce/custody/etc.)... make sure they do a lot of "family law committee work"... if they know the judges all the better... You can normally find a few that will give initial counseling free of charge.
[u]USLaw.com (an alternative search site)

Divorce / Children
Surprising Results of a Divorce Culture[/u]
[u]My Divorce Recovery Site
Separated Parenting Access & Resource Center(SPARC)[/u] *warning*... at times it is anti-marriage

Other
[u]Tomorrow Is Not Promised
Midlife Dimensions... a counseling and conference ministry[/u]
[u]Dealing With Manipulative People[/u]
[u]FREE Anonymous e-Postcards to People with the "Problems"[/u]
[u]Personality Tests on the WWW
[u]Personality Type changes everything![/u]

Links last verified 11/3/2005

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Thank you for putting this together, it has been very useful

onegoing, a couple of the links don't work but I found this interview with Dr. Harley when I was browsing here

One:

Some great late night reading. For all the BS's who have been questioning how that their WS could do it, I found this link particularly enlightening http://www.rbc.org/ds/cb001/

Particularly in answering the question of whether that a spouse who cheats has a permanent character flaw. The answer to that obviously is depends on the situation.

Personally, I have never subscribed to the theory that all WS are permanently flawed even if it was a one time thing and have forever changed. It is hard to change a person's character but many on here are examples that change can be done so maybe not a character issue. Perfect examples is Dorry. My wifes sitch is similar to hers. My W definately had a character flaw when she was having the A but today she is a totally changed person. Did her character change?? I don't know. But I do know that my deeply religous wife who strayed from me and God somehow was did the unthinkable. Now she is a completely different person than the one who I originally married and definately completely different than the one who was cat around with another man for nine months. MB has answered a lot of questions for me. This particular article filled in some of the blanks.