ORCHID SAID:
He isn't meeting your needs, yet you feel u were making progress.
Yes, he hadn't been meeting my important needs. Like right now feeling that our environment is safe from an A.
He has been acting more romantic. I like the romance. I realize that we may have two different ideas about meeting each others needs and I didn't want to squash his enthusiasm. But I feel strongly this go around that I can't sit back and not express my concerns.
ORCHID SAID:
Well a WS would like to slow down the progress and if the BS is willing to settle for it, then that's what a WS w/d
Is an example of slowing down progress when he is refusing transparency?
ORCHID SAID:
How are you both trying t/b good to each other? What is good 4 u?
Well as I mentioned above him acting in more romantic ways. Him acting a little more patient in some things.
ORCHID SAID:
What u r being told is NOT to set yourself up for any disappointment. I agree.
Ok, I get this, understand it better.
OCHID SAID:
BUT expect he will try to give you less and when he does, what's your plan?
No idea as of now. I do know that I would like for him to choose to do what makes me feel more comfortable to trust him and not me having to constanly prod him.
or just having an EA in his head.....his actions dictate he is in a fog. Not making clear headed decisions.
Ok, I understand this now. I just don't want to be controlling as for my own motives and I don't want to come off that way to him. But I feel strongly that we can't go the way we have before.
Thanks for explaining Orchid. You've cleared up some thoughts in my mind.