My husband has been mentioning buying me some larger breasts. I would have never considered doing anything like that before. I'm fairly well proportioned and not flat...it's just that 6 pregnancies (4 children nursing and 2 miscarriages) have taken their toll on my body.

I've posted my story on the Other board "impotence after affair." I told him i would consider it after our marital probles were worked out.

Has any one had this done and were you happy with it?

I haven't done it but I am considering it in the future.

How do YOU feel about the idea?

I haven't had it done. Never really considered it. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Your H sounds like a guy who would be insecure with losing his hair and waste gobs of $$ on Rogaine or hair restoration. Am I correct?

WAT

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I'm wavering. Sometimes I feel it would be a superficial thing to do. Sometimes, I feel that it would do so much for my self esteem (pretty low right now considering...). I also want my H to realize that his needs/wants are important to me.

I am nervous about health consequences and whether I would feel "real" if I had it done.

What kinds of pluses and minuses have you come up with?

vows.

I think you husband has to overcome his first problem first...and i highly doubt enlarging your boobs are gonna help that problem.

My personal plus and minus calculator?

Well..first of all..I wouldn't actually want *implants* but I am interested in damage repair..so to speak.

I don't really have insecurities about my looks or attractiveness but having had three children that I breastfed..one miscarraige..and I am pregnant right now has as you say taken a toll on my body. Some of that stretching is physically uncomfortable and I don't like the way it looks either.


H doesn't have an opinion..he likes the bigger post baby boobs and he liked the prebaby ones as well..so it's pretty much all me here as far as expectations go.

As for the downside..well..it is a lot of money to spend on something fairly frivolous..I wouldn't do it if it was going to require sacrifice.

I of course worry that I will be the fluke who dies from bad reaction to drugs or whatever [fill in the anxiety here]..seems like if my LIFE were at risk..I'd feel kinda stupid dying to fix my boobs <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />..but really..it is uncomfortable and I only expect it to become more so as the years progress so given the relative low risk of what I am considering having done..it's probably a green light at some point in the future.

Your situation sounds very different.

I wouldn't do something so drastic FOR anyone but me..and I'd definitely suggest you get some counseling before you make any plans because it sounds like you may be expecting a boob job to change your LIFE in some way.

WAT,

My H is actually somewhat of a rebel...he'll go out of his way to buy ugly clothes, he's been blessed with a full head of hair, he's more of a (good looking) geeky type and not obsessed with his own appearance...though he loves attention from women.

Resillient,

Thanks for the website information, I like to do as much research as possible with stuff like this.

Dorry,

As usual, you're right! We have a long way to go before our M is on the right track. I do wonder if it would help me feel more confident about myself. I slipped into the role of "mommy" for so long that I did forsake the sexy woman/wife side of me. H has bought me a lot of new, more feminine clothes; I think he also wants me to feel good about myself as well. He said he'd support and love me regardless of decisions I made.

Go buy some Wonderbras

they have some push-up jobbers that could hold up a Texas oil rig during a hurricaine

start there ... with sexy supportive underwear

live with those bigger boobs closer to your chin for at least 6 months...

then

if you decide to go implants ... do it for YOU

Pep

Other than AIDS, I have never seen any medical product or condition get as much non-scientific, anecdotal and pc bias as have silicone breast implants.

Again, if there were a safe and effective technique for penis enlargment, the discoverer would make Bill Gates and Warren Buffet look like pikers. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

LOL cymanca...

HOWEVER - I am a firm believer it's not the size that matters, it's how it's USED...TMI!!!

<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> LOL <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Wow!


Double wow! LOL!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

Sorry, this post reminds me of something my six year old said to me the other day.

"Mom. People have different boobs dont they Mom. Some are small, some are big and some are long."

<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Let's swing to the other end of the age spectrum. My grandmother told my sister (when she was about 12)..... u have cherry pits.... I have watermelons. LOL!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

Grandmas and kids....gotta love 'em. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

L.

P.S. What will you do when you are seventy?

Defy nature? LOL!!! I've wondered 'bout that myself. Will we see a generation of loppsided women whose breast are standing tall while everything else sags? YUCK!!

H's youngest sister (less than 30) has already had about 3 operations for implants. I heard she has about a 15 year warranty on it??!?!?! Not sure what that means. But before she hits 45, she will need them replaced?!??!? Then by 65, again? Hm...... scary thought indeed.

That's not to mention all the other plastic parts in her face. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> When I see the plastic rings on the 6-pack of soda, I think of her. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" />

L.

Plastic surgery is the western form of neck stretchng and foot binding...but I bet if you showed a picture of the Padaung tribe of Burma (the women with the really long necks due to layers upon layers of gold rings) to your SIL, she would think it was an odd custom!

What mutilation women will do for sexual appeal and social status. Sigh. And there are hungry children living in L.A.

I think fake breasts look... well... fake!

They separate where real breast don't, are rather in-your-face, and kind of bobble around like those wobbly-headed dollss in the back windows of cars. They have a manufactured - synthetic if you will - appearance that detracts from the genuine loveliness of the feminine form.

To me breasts are beautiful more for their function - for what they offer - than for simply their eye appeal. A woman's breasts nurture and comfort. Fake ones just seem to catch the errant peek of strangers in WalMart.

And, why do women who get implants so often want to EVERYONE to know about them???? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

MAzingrace

Good point. YSIL is a drama queen. Likes attention and will step on anyone or anything to get it. I just sent an e-mail to some of H's siblings since it is this drama queen who is currnetly stressing out her own father who has major heart issues (clogged valves, high blood pressure, etc.). She makes me sick.

These types of people don't care about anyone in need Instead it is more important to use as much $$ for themsevles as possible. Hey, maybe their s/b a campaign slogan s/b save $$, stamp out WS and OPs. LOL!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> Now I am not advocating violence....just NOT allowing aliens from that dern A mothership to take up residence on this planet. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

L.

Roll those girlies up and stick 'em in a push-up!

Now that quote came from a 6 year old....not me. LOL!!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

L.

...a six year old living in a country where bra-less is common. No matter the age!

Funny, funny, funny.

My XW had fake ones. She did it for her, not for me. I'm partial to au naturel - since I'm losing my hair and I don't care. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Yo Jo - did the video not work? tap, tap, tap

WAT
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May you have sun on your face and water in your shoes.

I stand corrected.....WAT u r a brave man! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

L.

My rules:

1. No pain.

2. Never do anything painful for someone else's pleasure.

3. Breasts are precious and shouldn't be tampered with unless it's for babies nursing, cancer screening or surgery.

5. Men who pressure women to get boob jobs need to get over themselves.

6. If it's something you want and you don't mind the pain, GO FOR IT. Just like any plastic surgery -- I'm all for doing whatever YOU want to do to feel good about yourself.

Do you all think this might be a mid-life crisis thing? I mean H is also talking about impractical sports car that we can't afford...etc. Maybe my own insecurities are pushing me into a crisis as well.

Your breast should not be his MLC issues. Yea....it c/b...all the more reason to NOT get taken by his demands.

Some of this came up while we were reading HNHN (attractive wife chapter). He's not insisting on it and I am trying to consider his preferences as legitimate ones. I did tell him that I would consider it after our marital problems were mended. In the past, my major LBs were not listening or considering his needs, so he stopped communicating them to me. He's finally opening up...do I negate his feelings now that he's expressed them?

I'm just wondering What Do YOU Want?

I'm sort of thinking asking our opinion, sort of suggests you don't want it. I sure wouldn't do anything like that unless I was doing it for ME.

What do I want? I'd like to feel more confident in my appearance again. I'd feel selfish and superficial. I'd probably feel more willing to expose my body to my H without feeling self conscious about the lack of firmness...etc. I don't know. Some days I think I really want this and others I think there's no way. It won't hurt to dwell on it a year or so.

vows,

So you know...I had a breast reduction 2 years ago...I had it mainly for the weight and sheer size...BUT I also had it in the hopes I would feel less self concious about my body, more in proportion and more comfortable...

While I like them so much better, and things fit better, and they are perky - I do not feel more self confident about my appearance. they are definately a huge improvement...but my self confidence needed to come from elsewhere....

Consider that in your OWN personal decision...

ps. I have nothing against fake boobs <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" /> I have more agains the reasons you may get them. I know many with them - esp ones who had them not TOO large, but in good proportion with their bodies...to give them some shape.

My WW has them. They were definitely for her and not for me. I don't really like large breasts and she did not get large ones. After our DD2, WW's breasts just went away. We are not sure where they went but she was very self-conscious about them and wanted to be able to put on clothes without duct tape aids. What I know about them is that they are expensive, can possibly reduce your sexual pleasure (did not in WW's case), they are not "for life" so it is a surgery that gets repeated so you will go through that pain multiple times. My WW got silicone because that is what every one of the doctors we visited recommended. Supposedly it is "new and improved" silicone that gels up if it leaks and they are double bagged, etc. She got them above the muscle rather than below and, for about a year, they felt like water balloons. After about two years they started to feel "natural" again. Since she did not get large implants, they look very well proportioned to her body. The only obvious clue that they are fake is that they clearly defy gravity.

Personally I wish she hadn't done it. I can see her point. She cares very much how she looks in her clothes. She was laid up in bed for 4 to 6 weeks. If she had gotten out of bed and been more active, I think she would have recovered more quickly.

My sister got silicone implants when they were a new thing. She pumped herself up to a 34A. Imagine that. This was about 30 years ago and they are as hard as rocks. And unfortunately she is a "hugger". They leave bruises if she hasn't seen you in a while and really missed you. Ouch!

Nothing wrong with em'. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

but go behind the muscle.

and get a darn good surgeon.

it is painful...

but if done correctly, worth it...

make sure size is appropriate as well as shape. research extensively. some, the newer ones...can last a lifetime if placed appropriately and surgeon is awesome and it's NOT IN FRONT OF THE MUSCLE...to many screw ups there and also dimpling and problems...according to my sources, most strippers go for the above the muscle b/c it's cheaper, and less downtime...some women do that b/c it's less downtime...but hey..if you do something do it right...go for behind the muscle.

and to think....a WS paid for them(during his affairs) to look incredible just so somebody(his cool stbxw) could become single.....barely even got to see em....not long anyway. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

he he he...a "certain" WS actually paid for a very very cool BS to get this done after breastfeeding shrunk her girls...and the BS felt and looked incredible! Then two years later they divorce...and the xw is a hot single chick with new girls! and happy <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> the sad and forelorn XWS didn't get much "hands on" experience at all..barely got to see em'. Poor stupid XWS.

I'll throw in my 2 cents. I've had implants for 30 years, and have never had a problem. They look and feel completely natural - they are under the muscle, Peachy. I even breast fed my 2 boys for 3 years each.

None of my men have ever noticed. At least they didn't say anything. And so far, they are lasting just fine.

Years ago, I was "out" for an operation. When I woke up, all the nurses told me how nice they were. (I had listed them on pre-surgery questionnaire). It made me feel a bit funny.

I find this link disturbing and yet, I think it would solve a lot of problems. I really think that men who want breast implants should have them. The Breast Years of His Life

Haha Fraulein - That was a GREAT one!!!!!

I think that breast implants are just plain stupid. Women have been snookered into many ridiculous things... walking on stilts (you call them heels)... make up and putting water balloons in your chests. I think a natural woman is beautiful. Any man that doesn't has something wrong with him!
And I am a man.

Wow, you all are great! I was strongly considering getting this done as a surprise to him while he was overseas. I still haven't ruled it out (getting it done later), but I realize this bears much more thought. Time is on my side.

If you're concerned about the look of an aging breast rather than size...

Why not consider a breast-lift instead?

Like Dorry, I had a breast reducution a couple of years ago. It was the best thing I EVER did and it *did* improve my self-confidence and the way I look pleases me more. My husband at the time was very supportive. It was a BRUTAL surgery--much worse than any implant surgery but so so worth it. With the reduction, you get kind of an automatic lift.

I am 35 and can go braless. I can wear spaghetti-strap tanks, do not have to get different sized tops and bottoms for my bathing suits. I can buy a shirt where the sleeves aren't three inches too long now. I can buy a dress that fits everywhere!

A breast lift would be simpler, I would think, than an implant--and may suit what *YOU* are looking for rather than an implant.

Whichever way--i concur with others...it's fine to consider the needs/wants of your husband but do not permanently alter your body unless it's something *you* want to do for yourself!

In my country there is a great deal of counselling that goes on before breast surgery and I'm pretty sure that it would be refused if the person was doing it for someone else. I've read many, many articles where drastic surgery was done for a spouse and the spouse then found something else to find wrong about the spouse.

I firmly believe that any appearance enhancing surgery should be done for the person themselves and no one else. Everyone I've ever know who's had breast reduction surgery did it for themselves and felt wonderful about it afterwards. I don't know anyone who's had breast implants.

From KiwiJ:" I don't know anyone who's had breast implants. I don't move in those sort of circles. "

Now what does that mean?

I have read some very negative remarks about this...and darn it...we've given our opinions...and people who are FULLY INFORMED AND AWARE AND CHOOSE THIS...should not be denegrated by anybody on this damn board ok?

Well I know tons of people who've also had it done. Guess I move in "those circles" and they're pretty nice people. Lots of people have it done. My own sis did.

And it was not to please anybody else. One of the better things I've done for myself thank you <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

So will you quit bashing people and give RELEVANT opinions please? BTW...it's an outpatient procedure and not really imho, since I AM a medical professional, considered anything drastic. In and out. In about 4 hrs.

[cough][clear throat] er, ummm, no - never mind. I won't say it.
<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />


JP - good point. Four hours? Outpatient? Over here it was a night in the hospital but technology may be different where you are. Venezuela has the highest usage of plastic surgery of any country in the world. That is a real statistic. WW had it done. I don't mind that she had it done. It wasn't necessary for us. It was what she wanted to do and I supported her in that.

I am going to tell on her now. I took her home from the hospital and she went straight to bed. I waited on her hand and foot for four weeks. I carried her to the bathroom. She couldn't turn herself over in the bed. I hand fed her. After four weeks, she was in severe pain. She insisted we go back to the doctor because something was terribly wrong and she was afraid she needed another surgery since the pain was so bad. We went to the doctor and he examined her and said all was okay. She complained about the terrible pain and he asked what she had been doing and she replied bed rest. He said that is why she was in so much pain. He told her to get up off her butt and start being active. She asked if the implants might shift. He said no way. She said "let's go shopping!". She went from severe pain in the morning to braless shopping in the afternoon and bought all sorts of sexy tops. And felt no pain BTW.

Now that's what I call "Recovery"! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

My surgery was outpatient, and I think it was just a couple of hours. I was awake the whole time, and only felt pressure. I stayed off work for a week (I was working as a pipefitter on submarines).

It did hurt afterward, but not in any way that would incapacitate anyone.

Anyway, I'm still glad I did it, but would never do it for a man. Like Fraulein says -

"I really think that men who want breast implants should have them."

My BIL had a breast implant after cancer surgery.

Hey believer,

I was hoping that someone would take that post in the spirit in which it was posted.

I don't have a thing against breast implants. If a woman chooses to do it and it makes her feel better about herself, I think it's a good thing. I won't knock anyone for getting bigger knockers! LOL What irritates me is when a man wants his partner to undergo a surgical procedure, no matter how minor for anything less than an absolute need basis. If it's that big of a deal, I think he should get his own personal set. That probably wouldn't work tho - he'd probably be so mesmorized that he'd just sit around and play with them all day and not get anything else done.

And before anyone thinks I'm a bitter flat-chested woman, nature endowed me well. I personally can't imagine getting implants - I think it'd make me taller laying down than standing up...

JP, not being nasty, just a huge cultural divide.

I just don't know anyone who has had breast implants. It's just not something that the sort of people I know do.

Pio, cheap shot.

Kiwi... you didn't just say that you don't know anyone with them... you said...



WOW... Now I am totally against any medical procedure to enhance breasts... I think it is just silly beyond measure. But your comments are way over the top.

Kiwi, what sort of circles do you run in???? Think about your reason for being on these boards... think about your trials on these boards... I would just be careful in your wording. It comes across as very funny (and not funny ha-ha). I know your intention was most likely to not come across as though your "circle" is better than this... but I know I am not the only one to have read it that way. So, no more being a boob...okay. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

I believe the ONLY reason a person must ever go for any type of plastic surgery other than for medical reasons, is if they want to do it for themselves. One must never undergo surgery like breast enlargements to please your spouse or anyone else.

I had breast enlargements almost 2 years ago. The reason: My whole life I have had a flat chest with almost no breast (smaller than a AA cup size). This had a big influence on how I felt about my body and my appearance. My H never complained about this and never gave me any reason to feel bad about it, but my flat breast size was very bothering to me. I can honestly say the breast augmentation is the best thing a have ever done for myself. In fact, I wish I have done it years ago, but initially I was afraid there would be bad consequences.

I don’t have large breast now (I don’t like large breast and neither does my H), but I just have a nice, medium sized “full B” cup now. Just enough for clothes to fit nicely without breast which appear too big for my size. Because of the medium sized implants, the breast feels and looks natural. I feel much more comfortable about my body and appearance in clothes now and I feel more self-confident. AND my H is happy for me too and also like it (although he was hesitant to let me go for the operation initially).

So KiwiJ, I guess I'm not in the type of "circle" you would want to find yourself in, right? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

men DO get breast cancer sometimes

and sometimes if the surgery was deep

they might have post-cancer plastic surgery

Kiwi ... chill out .... humor is a stress reliever better than an alcoholic beverage

Pep

WAT's FREE breast lifts!!!

Peppo, LOL a VERY cheap shot.

Like I said, it's a cultural thing. Here only society wives, TV celebrities, strippers and women having resconstructive surgery after cancer have implants.

MEDC, I certainly don't run in circles where infidelity is the norm. Quite the opposite.

Chilling out now and letting you all get back to topic. Sorry about the intrusion.

FWIW, Jen, I knew what you meant...

I don't hang in the same circles as Wall Street Investors and Rodeo Clowns...but that doesn't mean I think they're bad people...

Why, some of my best friends are Beekeepers..

<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Yo Low - what about Wall Street Clowns?

<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />
WAT
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Coitillion - A formal dance at which a debutante really makes her debute.

I've removed the offending remark.

Suzet, I think making "no" breasts into normal sized breasts is perfectly understandable. I have a problem with making "normal" breasts into super duper sized breasts, especially when it's done for someone else.

WAT, I couldn't open your "free" breast lifts which is probably just as well. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Hate to say it, but I've probably financed one or two of those... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

Squid lost a lot of weight during her affair and her poor boobs suffered greatly.

She exercised and swam a lot to get fit afterwards however and her boobs went up from a healthy 34c into being a healthier 36dd . Try exercise before surgery if you want firmer boobs.

HAH OM, you'll never know what THEY feel like ! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

na-uh

I charge $100 an hour minimum

Peppo