I thought we were past all this. I threw away all the books I had, they were depressing and reminding me of what I thought was the past. It's really a sick sick feeling having to do this all over again. I told him tonight that I have had it with him. So he left...he's been gone for about 4 hours, another form of punishment, I suppose. Thanks for asking me to come back. It's hard to be here, but at the same time, I've appreciated the support over the years immensely.
OUC, thanks for coming back. Please consider what I said to you in my earlier posts, it would be insane to believe that you can change him and to choose to live with abuse. You must ask yourself WHY you choose to live like this. He will not change unless he chooses to do so, and you do not have the power to effect that change. This is not a marital problem that MB is equipped to address, but rather a personal problem of your husbands.
Your mission is to a) accept him how he is and b) come to accept that you cannot change him and c) make a decision to either live with his ABUSE or NOT. Only you know if you can live with abuse, but if you do choose to stay, you will have VOLUNTEERED for it. You will no longer be a victim and can no longer complain when you are abused.
So, I will ask you what I asked before, why do you choose to live like this, onlyucan?