I loved this...a very good read - 09/06/07 01:36 PM
kimleigh wrote this...
and it very well spells out what sometimes an active WS does not see or understand...
a very very core root of the pain of infidelity....
“The window and the wall
When affairs take place the OW is given a window into the (marital) relationship because the unfaithful spouse generally talks about his marriage with the OW.
However, the unknowing faithful partner sees only a wall. They are not allowed to see beyond the marriage into the affair, which is always hidden with lies and deception.
If healing is to take place, the window and wall must be reversed. The faithful partner must be given a window into the affair and the OW must be given a wall instead. Their (OW) window into the marriage must be boarded shut permanently”
I like the way this is worded....
I am always supportive of finding new ways to the same thing...cause with an emotionally upset WS they can't and don't always hear what people are saying...
or they feel they hear the same thing over and over...
as a BS always look for new ways to reach them..
and this is a good one...
it has very good word-picutures...
but take heart as well for the window in to your marriage is not clear...
it is smeared and foggy and covered in areas...for the picture the active WS to perpertrate their betrayal...
is never ever ever ever ever the truth...
if it was
they'd divorce
not
cheat....
ARK
and it very well spells out what sometimes an active WS does not see or understand...
a very very core root of the pain of infidelity....
“The window and the wall
When affairs take place the OW is given a window into the (marital) relationship because the unfaithful spouse generally talks about his marriage with the OW.
However, the unknowing faithful partner sees only a wall. They are not allowed to see beyond the marriage into the affair, which is always hidden with lies and deception.
If healing is to take place, the window and wall must be reversed. The faithful partner must be given a window into the affair and the OW must be given a wall instead. Their (OW) window into the marriage must be boarded shut permanently”
I like the way this is worded....
I am always supportive of finding new ways to the same thing...cause with an emotionally upset WS they can't and don't always hear what people are saying...
or they feel they hear the same thing over and over...
as a BS always look for new ways to reach them..
and this is a good one...
it has very good word-picutures...
but take heart as well for the window in to your marriage is not clear...
it is smeared and foggy and covered in areas...for the picture the active WS to perpertrate their betrayal...
is never ever ever ever ever the truth...
if it was
they'd divorce
not
cheat....
ARK