Please welcome my friend - 01/29/08 05:04 AM
Hi Guys.... a few weeks ago I posted about a gf who was told by her DH on 12/29 that he was having an A. and for those that also saw me ask about Landmark, this is also about the same couple.
She did some exposure, about 2 weeks ago, to his mom, some influential friends and business partners as well as to one of his landmark "coaches". I gave her the books i had: His Needs/Her Needs, Torn Asunder and Surviving an Affair or was it After an Affair, i forget now.
We've talked about Plan A/Plan B. Honestly she was already doing plan A intiutively. She is an extrememly strong and loving woman who even though her WH continues with the A wants to save her marriage if at all possible.
Tonight she was given the "i love you but i'm not in love with you" line as well as told that he does in fact want a divorce. she can correct me if i'm wrong but basically her response was that she did not because she believes in them.
these past few weeks, since i've known about what was going on, i've talked a lot about MB in priniples.
And tonight especially, because she is really hurting over the conversation from tonight, I told her about the support here that can be so awesome. (well and i warned her about how there can be some fueding occuring at times)
I've told her about stories of couples in horrible shape that have managed to turn things around. (Yes BobPure, I'm talking about you as one fine example!)
I've done my best to give her advice but I know I'm no expert (and she knows i was on the other side of the story).
I also told her that there are just so many wonderful people here (angels in my eyes) that can be of much comfort during especially hard moments, like say in the middle of the night when it's hard to make a phone call to a friend... (or when her dorky friend just manages to not keep her cell phone with her) <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" />
RIF, i told her specifically about you since you are in charge of the night shift. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
I can't begin to list the names of all the amazing people here so I'm hoping instead that you will chime in and let her know she is not alone and there can be hope for as long as she wants to fight for her marriage.
so, please give her your prayers and encouragement, even if she does not register, i'm sure she will be reading tonight.
Thanks.
and to you my dear friend... I hope you are reading and I hope you find some peace tonight and feel God's Love and feel Him holding you. He is hurting tonight with you. As am I. you are not alone.
She did some exposure, about 2 weeks ago, to his mom, some influential friends and business partners as well as to one of his landmark "coaches". I gave her the books i had: His Needs/Her Needs, Torn Asunder and Surviving an Affair or was it After an Affair, i forget now.
We've talked about Plan A/Plan B. Honestly she was already doing plan A intiutively. She is an extrememly strong and loving woman who even though her WH continues with the A wants to save her marriage if at all possible.
Tonight she was given the "i love you but i'm not in love with you" line as well as told that he does in fact want a divorce. she can correct me if i'm wrong but basically her response was that she did not because she believes in them.
these past few weeks, since i've known about what was going on, i've talked a lot about MB in priniples.
And tonight especially, because she is really hurting over the conversation from tonight, I told her about the support here that can be so awesome. (well and i warned her about how there can be some fueding occuring at times)
I've told her about stories of couples in horrible shape that have managed to turn things around. (Yes BobPure, I'm talking about you as one fine example!)
I've done my best to give her advice but I know I'm no expert (and she knows i was on the other side of the story).
I also told her that there are just so many wonderful people here (angels in my eyes) that can be of much comfort during especially hard moments, like say in the middle of the night when it's hard to make a phone call to a friend... (or when her dorky friend just manages to not keep her cell phone with her) <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" />
RIF, i told her specifically about you since you are in charge of the night shift. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />
I can't begin to list the names of all the amazing people here so I'm hoping instead that you will chime in and let her know she is not alone and there can be hope for as long as she wants to fight for her marriage.
so, please give her your prayers and encouragement, even if she does not register, i'm sure she will be reading tonight.
Thanks.
and to you my dear friend... I hope you are reading and I hope you find some peace tonight and feel God's Love and feel Him holding you. He is hurting tonight with you. As am I. you are not alone.