yesterday we moved her to inpatient hospice after my husbands dad called in tears saying he couldn't do it anymore and that things were unsafe...

he now wrestles with the fact that he promised her once he brought her home he wouldn't make her go any where else...

though she in her mind is already somewhere else....

this evening I will take my children to say goodbye for the last time......

this cancer, multiple myloma' is an insidious bugger and has captured her just shy of a year of diagnosis..

the worst is she has no faith...

there is no peace for her
there is no reckoning


my husbands heart is heavy and there were no words of comfort that she could hear or understand.....though he would talk quietly for hours with her....

she chose not to believe....

she only saw herself as a goner....

so so so sad....

sorry to burdon this site with this off topic tripe....

I think I am just sleep deprived and sad down to my marrow.....

ark^^

((((((Arkie & Hubby))))))

I'm so very sorry...Prayers for all of you...

Mrs. W

{{{ark^^}}} (and your H and FIL, and especially your MIL)

The Lord may have reached her.

I am sorry for your loss.

I am so sorry, Ark. {{{{{{{{{{ARK}}}}}}}}}}}}

I went through that (not with cancer) but watching my FIL die in a few days after an infection ravished his body. It doesn't matter if she has faith or not - she can still find peace. Your prayers can help her find peace. I'm so sorry - there are never enough words to say in a situation like this. My thoughts are with you and your family.

{{{{{{{Ark and family}}}}}}}}

Having someone die is hard enough, having them die at home is even harder for the family, anyway. Please tell your FIL it was not about a broken promise, but about him being wise enough to ask for help when he needed it.

With prayers for your comforting,
Neak

I BELIEVE that HE will come to her in the end and give her that chance...

Continue to PRAY for her SALVATION...

May G-d have peace on her soul and family as she passes.

May you know how much you are loved on here and that we all keep you and your family in our prayers and support you with our hugs and love.

mimi...

I soo want to believe that....

but that whole thing about free will...ya know...that thing that I find so important to the whole faith thing...

an omnipotent power to make people believe ....
to make people adore and love you...

and the gift of freedom to choose....

to me that almost seals the deal of proving the existance of God
in and of itself....
the pure brilliance of that

I hope that somewhere inside she chose well
for her sake
for my husbands peace of mind
for her husbands sake who will only see this whole process of passing as Godless as well

the prayers are fast and furious at times....

ark

Hi ark:

I'm sorry for your family's loss.

I believe that the Universe, or God, or whatever term or concept people want 2 think about, will embrace her.

As should we all.

-ol' 2long

Trust in the LORD. Your own FAITH will lead HIM to come to her and yes, then, she will have the CHOICE..

But don't you see HIM coming to her in such AWESOMENESS and RADIANCE that she can't possibly say NO..

Praying for your family, Ark.

To Ark and family,

I am soooo sorry for the loss and pain.

In my personal belief...

HE will come to comfort her as he comforted HIS disciples in JOHN 14:1-4 (NIV Version)

Dear Ark

I won't toss you a bone regarding your MILs salvation. If she rejected God's message, well, God doesn't force anybody to join him in glory. You can only have peace that it is your MILs choice of destiny.

I can only say that none of us can know the state of her soul right now but God and your MIL herself. If she has not chosen to have her name crossed out of the book of life you will meet her again in Glory.

I pray that God will send his Comforter to minister to MIL, to your H , to you and all who are sad as your MILs time on earth ends.

Thank you Almighty Father God for the good woven into this world by MIL during her time gracing it, Lord and hear our prayer that you look upon this sister with Mercy and Grace that she may chose Glory as her destiny.

In Jesus' name I pray

Amen

Amen...

(((((LOVE AND PRAYERS, ARK))))))

((((((((((ark)))))))))

My prayers go out to you, your husband, your MIL, your FIL, your family, especially for those who know the truth of God at this time.

Until she passes, all things are possible for God.

Regardless, God will be there to comfort those who know Him and have the indwelling Holy Spirit.

God searches the heart, and reality lies in Christ, and Christ alone. No words are necessary, just acceptance of the offered gift.

God bless.

I'm so sorry, Ark.

(((Ark)))

Ark,

Been there, done that, got the T-shirt.

My prayers go to you and the family.

Its a crappy time to endure..then the peace comes, for her and all of you.

Your gentle kindness will be a shining example and a comfort for the rest.

kirk

My MIL or now XMIL died on Thanksgiving day this past year just before dinner.

She was sitting in her chair watching TV and just fell asleep.

They didn't even know she was gone until they went to get her for dinner.

I do know for a fact she was a true Christian. Too bad my exw isn't, but the typical counterfit.

ark,

I am so sorry to hear about your MIL.

I know what I would do...(others might disagree)

I would hold her hand and pray. Lots of times others are "brought" to God through prayer. She might be cognizant enough to realize what you are doing without being able to voice that to you.

It would give her the opportunity to find her way if she wishes and wants to. It would give you a sense of peace knowing that you helped to show her the way and all she needed to do was take it.

She might take it when lit by someone she loves and trusts.

Just like coma patients, you don't know what they can hear.

Ministers lead people to God...be that to her.

jmho

committed

I TOTALLY AGREE...

me too.

You and your family are in my prayers, for your MIL and for peace.

Praying for peace and salvation.

HUGS, Ark. My prayers are with you and your family.

WOW I agree with Mimi!

Continue to pray Ark. I'm sorry you are going through this.

Ark,

My prayers are with you and your family during this time.

I'm with so many others, and FH has my full agreement on this -


and Mimi


YOU may not hear her say the words out loud, but HE will hear her heart of acceptance.

Trust that with Him ALL things are possible.

{{{{Ark}}}}

Ark, I am sorry to hear the news. May you and the rest of the family find some peace in knowing that her struggle is over. In knowing that you loved her and she loved you.

We are hear for you if only in heart and spirit.

So sorry to hear this, Ark.

My dad died at the end of November and two months later, mom was diagnosed with a very agressive cancer.

It's sad that your FIL feels he failed, but I know he did his best. Mom took care of dad for 3 years in the home, but I regret part of it because I think it took a toll on her health. My dad even told me that she was supposed to be getting treatments, but she denied it. She didn't want to abandon him. Now she is the one that is dying.

me too.. that doesn't happen often for the three of us!

Ark, I hope today went as well as can be expected. God knows the heart...remember that.

I'm so sorry, Ark.

One of my dearest friends witnessed all his adult life to his very stubborn father who was completely uninterested in any kind of Christianity. He was a kind, loving man, but just didn't want to believe.

When he was in a coma, hours from death, my friend sat and sang to him and read scripture and told him what he COULD have if he believed. At this point he was not even responsive to pain. My friend begged his father to just squeeze his hand if he believed. No squeeze. My friend said, " OK Dad, maybe you are too weak to squeeze my hand. If you want to believe that Jesus is your Savior, maybe just raise your eyebrows."

And...up went his eyebrows, three times. He died a few minutes later.

God is soooooooo Good!!!!

May he give you this comfort and assurance now in YOUR time of pain and loss.

Blessings to you all.

WH2LE

Ark: I just wanted to say I am sorry. It is very sad and I want you to know you have my prayers. Please take care.

Ark,

So sorry to read of your MIL.Perhaps this will help.

Last month as my mom lay in the ICU after ALS had almost taken her from me, I was able to go home to Ohio and spend almost 5 days at her bedside. My mother was never a very touchy feely woman but during that time she kept my hand clasped in hers as she struggled mightily for each and every breath. I talked to her continuously about her life, my admiration for her strength,the good qualities that she had bestowed upon me as a son and lastly some of the most funny things that we had shared together in life. After coming back to California, I could not forget the look on my mom's face as I smiled my "I will see you in a couple of days".

I had shared my grief with a couple of patient's and confessed my shame at wanting to see her suffering ended. One special young lady scolded me for my attitude, reminding me that God had his own plans and his own time when his call would come. She directed me to this special beautiful prayer. That night I prayed that special prayer and asked that if it was God's intention of calling for her that it be mercifully quick.

At five the next morning the phone rang with my brother telling me that mom had died that last night in her sleep.

Chaplet to the Divine Mercy

Ark, my prayers for you and your family

Ark - My prayers are with you and your family tonight.

FIM

Prayers for you and family, Arkie.

Jo

We have laughed with you,
Worked along side you
Admired your work
Enjoyed your comments
Learned from your posted thoughts.

Now we mourn with you also.


May God comfort you, and yours, as you have so freely comforted others.

SS

she passed last night around 2:00 AM

thank you all for your kind words and thoughts....

funny that a flat fingerprinted screen can bring so many feelings of peace....

your prayers mean a lot to me..
thank you cymanca for your link....

BS and WS fighting your way back...remember that you hold great value to those who know you in this universe...

know that your worth is not, never has been and never will be connected to any thing a WS does or says...

you stand alone in your own right...and don't ever forget that no matter how dark it seems/feels

I pray that she truly is at peace...
I keep imagining her reunited with her mother and father whom she hasn't been with with for a long time....
that thought makes it sweet and sappy in a strange way....

thank you all very very much

ark

Sincerest condolences, Ark.

May God grant you and the family peace and comfort among the pain and loss.

God bless.

I am sorry for your loss. I was listening to a sermon yesterday from my pastor and thought it might be a good listen for you right now. I hope it brings you peace.

http://www.ccphilly.org/audio/currentteaching.aspx

The one I am referencing is from 5/25 (code SAM625).

MEDC

I too am sorry for the loss in your family. I learned a long time ago, that words during this time don't always help, but the knowledge that there are so many people in your life who care that you and your loved ones are grieving brings comfort.

I don't know you very well, but I know of your words and commitment to helping others. I can only imagine how special you are to your family and the many joys you brought to your MIL.

Take care of yourself.

I know the days ahead will be difficult. I am still prying for you and your family. God bless you all.

If you want another sermon on loss,I can post one from one of our pastors who son recently commited suicide.

{{{{{{arkie}}}}}


I pray that in time all the pain will fade and loving memories will take its place.

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