Mr wondering when you say it like that it makes me feel more confident about my decision. Thank you.
Don't forget...a small part of this question has to do with the fact that YOU want him there for YOU for Christmas too.
Unfortunately...WH has taken all your choices and just about expanded all his chances with you. Plan B is necessary for your family such that IF and WHEN WH wakes up...you'll still take him.
Even considering having him over for Christmas is a love bank withdrawal you must resist thinking about. Plan B is a taste of divorce for WH. I hope and pray he doesn't like it as much as you and your son obviously don't.
Mr. Wondering
p.s. - great idea Pep....but NO pictures of you and make the background as uninteresting as possible. Don't give him inside panoramic views of the house.