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I remember this situation. In this particular case, I remember that it happened when the BS had intercepted a very hurtful message from the OW, and despite her best efforts, she could not help but explode all over the WH.
I remember thinking at the time that this particular WH appeared to have enough vestiges of a conscience left that he was able to understand how hurt she was... and perhaps he finally realized how wrong he was... Also, her explosion of anger appeared to let him know, in no uncertain terms, how much she still cared about the marriage... because she was so hurt.
Yes, and it was done AFTER she had worked a good Plan A.
While she did drop the F bomb, she also spoke w/ FRANKNESS that perhaps she had been afraid to do until that emotional moment.
The only times I've seen it work/help a sitch was when the wayward spouse was a WH, not a WW.
I also wanted to correct this.
I remember one sitch where a BH unloaded on his foggy W.
But, his W had ended her A. And he had been patiently waiting for the fog to lift so that she would get on board w/ recovering their M.
Turns out it wasn't fog that needed clearing as much as she needed to get her head out of her butt. Once he got to the point that he was ready to let go of the M, he let it all rip w/ her. He said he called her every name imaginable.
He said it was a turning point for them.
She finally embraced the MB way.
He's come back several times to report how well they are doing.
I can't remember his nic...