Count me in - I'm a statistic. - 03/03/09 06:54 AM
just found out - Saturday AM - my whole world is spinning out of control and all I know is that I want to scream - yell - rip stuff up - throw something - lots of somethings.
I can't help but feel that I want to go back to the minute before I found out and do something else - not answer the phone from that creditor asking for me to make payment for a bill that I didn't make - What? I said - I don't even use a credit card - oh that card - yes my husband is an authorized user - what? yes what are the current charges? Coach $540 - FTD flowers $57 - Hotel? Car rental? Phone bill? (Silence) (Dead pan) Yes, I will take care of it - yes - no I don't need the phone number to call you back - yes I'll take care of it...That was an overnighter a day before Valentines day - a day before I was laid off from work. Know what I got for Valentines day? You got it zip - but someone else sure got something pretty good stuff - I didn't even get a kiss and Happy Valentines day - nothing -
I want that stuff - I want it all - every gift he gave her - everything - I want him to end it with her and tell her that I want the stuff - not just that they are breaking up - I want HER to know that I know - that I'm mad so mad - but that I'm not kicking him to the curb - he is MY husband - I've got 23 years invested in him and for all intents and purposes he's been a good man and father - but I want her to know that I will have that stuff - either to use or to sell.
WS says he wants to stay - wants to work it out - is willing to go to counseling - says it's up to me if he stays or not - after what I read here about the steps and what he would say and he said it all - especially the ENs stuff - at least I was prepared for it - I was able to answer and respond rationally without getting overly emotional and using hurtful words.
I will be a frequent visitor here - I have no advice to give but I could certainly use some! Thank you all for your support.
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I can't help but feel that I want to go back to the minute before I found out and do something else - not answer the phone from that creditor asking for me to make payment for a bill that I didn't make - What? I said - I don't even use a credit card - oh that card - yes my husband is an authorized user - what? yes what are the current charges? Coach $540 - FTD flowers $57 - Hotel? Car rental? Phone bill? (Silence) (Dead pan) Yes, I will take care of it - yes - no I don't need the phone number to call you back - yes I'll take care of it...That was an overnighter a day before Valentines day - a day before I was laid off from work. Know what I got for Valentines day? You got it zip - but someone else sure got something pretty good stuff - I didn't even get a kiss and Happy Valentines day - nothing -
I want that stuff - I want it all - every gift he gave her - everything - I want him to end it with her and tell her that I want the stuff - not just that they are breaking up - I want HER to know that I know - that I'm mad so mad - but that I'm not kicking him to the curb - he is MY husband - I've got 23 years invested in him and for all intents and purposes he's been a good man and father - but I want her to know that I will have that stuff - either to use or to sell.
WS says he wants to stay - wants to work it out - is willing to go to counseling - says it's up to me if he stays or not - after what I read here about the steps and what he would say and he said it all - especially the ENs stuff - at least I was prepared for it - I was able to answer and respond rationally without getting overly emotional and using hurtful words.
I will be a frequent visitor here - I have no advice to give but I could certainly use some! Thank you all for your support.
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