It has been a while that I have not had a chance to stop by. But then I spotted someone who tried to B-B-Q under the cover of snow. What was he thinking? Is he out of his mind? Did the mother ship land somewhere in DC area again? Or was it just the way Worthatry is nowadays? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

When I spotted that grill, man, I almost picked up a CASE of beer and came over. It would be something, wouldn’t it? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Anyway, I just want to stop by and say hello to all of you, especially the Class of MB 2000. Any update would be appreciated.

For me, I’m somewhat a dropped out? Neither in recovery nor divorce, but somewhere in between. What I’m saying is that my “sex” life is on hold until the cows come home whenever that will be. My wife is too busy with school and part-time job, that she has no time to have anything to do with me. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" /> <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

Thank you for reading this.

<small>[ April 04, 2003, 11:26 AM: Message edited by: OffOnOnOff ]</small>

OOOO,

I hate to hear that there is no improvement in your marriage. Your wife is missing out.
Glad to hear from you though.

I've been lurking mostly and post occasionally. I'm on d-day #2. Things have been hard but I'm working on it.

Hope to see you around more often. I kind of miss the old crowd but am glad to see people move on.

Hey man! Glad you're still kicking!

I did have to learn to cook in the kitchen after the President's Day weekend storm. Snow was waist deep on the deck and I couldn't even open door. Would I have to wait until the next storm to lure you out with that case?

My main challenge these days is looking out for the welfare of my son, now 14, who splits time with me and the aliens. We have a good relationship but his life "over there" is a mystery to me. I speak with XW as little as possible and OM appears to want to avoid me as much as I think he's a big fat idiot, if he's mammilian at all.

I have a fabulous girlfriend who gets along really well with my son. We're headed to St. Lucia in 16 days to spend 9 days sailing with 22 other crazy people on 3 big cats.

Anybody need a dog?

Hey - class reunion - cool! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

I'm happy to say that after a two year journey of recovery my H and I made it and really things are better than ever.

Anyone else out there?

Happy to say that things are pretty dandy here. On a personal level, I am back in grad school, hoping to change careers in a few years. Marriage-wise, it is better than ever in pretty much every respect.

Kathi

Hola OOOO,

I'm from the "Class of '2000", a member that ended up divorced, which is for the best. I didn't want the divorce but God had other plans.

I still lurk and read, sometimes the stories here become too much for me, lots of heartbreaking stuff, but also so many loving courageous people.

Although it may not seem like it to them at the time, it's easier to walk then it is to try to recover your marriage after infidelity, no small potatoes there. Takes guts to critically examine yourself for your part in the demise of your marriage, takes unwaivering consistency and a resolve to make yourself a better person without any acknowledgement of your changes and with no guarantees the marriage will survive. All in the face of a terrible, and most times, unforeseen betrayal by the one person in life you trusted the most.

All the people here have my admiration and blessings, they're an inspiration to me daily.

I don't have an update per say, just living one day at a time, and realizing I made it through this terrible thing nearly unscathed thanks to MB, at least no outwardly noticeable scars. Thanks so much for askin, OOOO. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Much Love,
Jo

<small>[ April 03, 2003, 03:00 PM: Message edited by: Resilient ]</small>

Recovery started in 2000, does that count?

Hello Class of 2000! I'm another who ended up divorced, it was shoved down my throat at the speed of light.

Recently lost in court to have XW held in contempt. Once your ex-spouse (wive's most likely) leaves the state with your child, going to court as a foreigner is like being the National League champ and having to play all seven (7) games at Yankee Stadium. I have no faith in the justice system. Her lawyer in our home state (NJ) at the time of the divorce became a judge shortly after D was final. I think it was a case of a judge not wanting to show up a future judge. Anyway, XW should've never been allowed to move with daughter.

I lurk here mainly to give and get information on how to be the best part time dad I can possibly be.

Good luck all, especially those in recovery. And thanks to all who have supported me over the years, Lor, WIFTTY, Resilient, NSR, WAT, OOOO!

<small>[ April 04, 2003, 06:41 AM: Message edited by: catamount82 ]</small>

I'm still around. Got a real job last year. Can actually pay the bills. Have now been divorced over 4 years. Came here when I was well over him. But I've still got growing to do. And life is great. Now, if only the wonderful 'diplomat' (a normal guy but a princess can't admit that, can she?) whom I see as often as possible didn't live so far away.

Thought I'd throw this out to y'all - especially the class of 2000 Alumni -

Okay folks. So many of you stuck with me during my recovery. Two years of "I don't love you anymore" etc etc etc (read my signature line for a quick reference).

I have my husband and my marriage back. I mean - even today - he was out doing errands, shopping, etc and brought me home a lovely, colourful spring bouquet! (Boy - did I need that - tired of all this stupid snow!!).

BUT - BUT - BUT - I STILL have my moments of hanging on to that pain. I STILL have questions which I dare not ask anymore - I know he has buried that part of his history - he's good at that, but I'm not. I'm not moping around or anything, but I just can't seem to get away from thoughts about the A and OW and the betrayal etc. Is it a weird way to protect myself? If I absolutely let go of it all and take all the final steps forward, am I just setting myself up to be hurt again? Is that my fear? Or is all this because the 3 year anniversary of DDay is in about a month and we're getting close to the time of year where my husband went off on a "job" only to meet her for a four day tryst?? Accckkk???
I guess this thing is with me forever - but how can I stop it from stopping me? What is "fully recovered" anyway?

Not sure if any of this rambling makes sense,,, but would love any feedback.