My counselor talked to me about this yesterday, because it seems like I carry a calendar in my head with all the "bad" dates 10 ft high. He says it is unforgiveness on my part that makes it that way...and once I truly, completely, and probably most important THOROUGHLY forgive, the calendar will disappear. <P>He says he sees this even with dates of death and the grieving...that once they have come to acceptance...the date, although it may be remembered, won't rip them up and destroy them every year.<P>Anyway, I'd personally do anything to get this calendar out of my head...with 7 separations & 2 years of bad holidays, I get hit with a lot of pain. It would be nice as those thoughts begin to just say, "hey, I've dealt with that, don't need to go there anymore."
<P>Just a thought to pass along.<P>------------------<BR>Lor<BR>"Let love be genuine...hold fast to what is good; love one another." Rom 12:9-10