Men, I need your advice -- I hurt my husband's feelings big time - 05/11/01 02:03 PM
Background: we are over two years in recovery from his affair. I have not done any major LBing for those whole two years. Occasionally, I'd slip up and do something intentionally to tick him off, but we've been able to work things through.<P>This time, however, I unintentionally hurt him deeply. He was sitting on the floor in front of me and I said, "Gee, honey, you need to start wearing a hat when you are out in the sun, your head is really burned." He is not bald, but his hair is thinning just a little. <P>He glared at me and told me to shut up. He NEVER says that to anyone because he thinks it is so rude.<P>I apologized several times, which made things worse! <P>Finally after a long silence, I asked him to please forgive me. He said he would, if I promised NEVER to mention his thinning hair again.<P>Up till now, he has joked about it, especially that he wouldn't want to risk the 'sexual side effects' of all the products that are available to help you keep your hair.<P>Frankly, I find men sexy with or without hair. There are a couple of bald guys I've know who were very appealing.<P>So, do I just 'shut up', like he told me to, or tell him how sexy he is to me no matter how much hair he has?<P>pogp