My H's OW still works with him, and he's been avoiding her like the plague. Today he purposely excluded her from his work group so he would not have to ride with her. She went and complained to his boss, and his boss said for him to "make up" to her, and go ahead and take her along. (which meant she'd be sitting next to him in a truck). So he did as his boss instructed and his OW told him off. Don't have all of the story for sure, but she said he'd been not wanting to work with her for over 2 months now (true enough <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> ), that even his wife (me) had an attitude toward her, that he needed to start getting along with her because they had to work together, and that she could ruin his marriage if she wanted too! (there may be more, but that's what he's told me on the phone).

For the record, he hasn't had a confrontation with her for 3 or more months now, the entire A took place at work, during work hours, no sex, and she doesn't know that I know.

Now I'm wondering, why did he feel so satisfied that she got mad and told him off? He said she just rattled her head off and he didn't get a word in edgewise (mainly because he didn't want to!). And that she was still mad even after their discussion. Is he tickled because she's finally getting the message, or that she's lost him, or that he's getting under her skin?

Interpretations PLEASE!!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />

I'd be concerned. My FH accidentaly made contact w/ OW at a public forum. When he saw her there he posted his love for me and ignored her. But she made a fool of herself over it. MY CONCERN was he'd gloat over her publicly making a fool of herself. Just like you, Jamup, I worry that any feelings are too many feelings. My FH has convinced me he doesn't care. She's that meaningless to him.

Your H may still need time to reach no reaction to OW. But Jamup think about it, even after your H's gotten there will she? My FH had no contact for 2.5 years and his OW is still unable to move on.

The Harleys suggest no contact for life. Is there anyway for your H to do that? Your H sounds like he's doing everything right. Should he or you have to deal w/ her problems?

Another thing I'd like to add. I totally LB'd my FH over this until I looked at all of it clearly. It wasn't his fault and he can't be held resposible for her problems. Please don't make my mistake and LB your H. Do try to work together to find a way to no contact. Sadly for us that means no contact w/ mutual friends she's trying to use to regain contact. For you a job change may be needed. I know how frustrating this can be. You have my support.

I think she likes to keep people on a string. She likes to have control, and she also wants the opportunity to "try to get him" again. When he won't talk to her or even hang around her, she doesn't have this opportunity. He did mention that while she was "stating her case" that she looked longingly at his chest (which highly aggravated him). Then later that week, he tried to do as his boss instructed and not be so cold. Here's how that turned out:

He went to sit in a vehicle to visit with her and 2 other co-workers as a "peace" token. Unfortunately, the only place to sit was in the back seat with her, but since it was a full size crew cab, (with 2 witnesses present), he felt like everything would be ok. When he walked up he noticed the entire back seat was full except where she was sitting. She immediately began moving things, and he made enough room to sit right up against the door. An item belonging to one of the other guys was near him on the seat, and after he'd been sitting a bit, she reached over and moved it for him. Then she noticed that one of the guys' lunch box was against his leg, and reached over and moved it too!!!!!!!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> Keep in mind that this took her stretching all of the way across a FULL size work truck!!! Hardly a innocent, helpful gesture. So in the 2 times they've interacted, she's subtely come on to him! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> He said if there had not been witnesses he would have told her, "if that stuff is bothering me, I can move it myself." She just won't quit doing stuff like this. He said if he can't get transferred out of that office within a year, he will undertake a new profession.

I'm with you, I think this may be his only option.

I don't think this OW is so caught up with HIM necessarily, she just can't help but to pursue men in general. Especially good looking, nice, younger men like my H!

She is a full-fledged whore!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> I'm beginning to hate her more and more!! I guess it's not a good thing to hate, but I sure don't think I would ever want to meet her, because I don't know what I would say to her.

I think H needs to not worry about "pleasing the boss", and he needs to continue the ignoring process that he has done so well in the past 8 months. I hope he finds some success job hunting.