He has me all confused... - 04/12/07 12:08 PM
I caught my husband talking to his old ex-gf Beth when I asked him several times not to. There was some inapproperiate stuff going on between them,nothing sexual that I know of as he deleted their emails and text messages. They were talking quite a bit over the phone. It seems to me it was an emotional affair.
Then I found several membership acct emails in his email box for online porn chat sites. He was looking for a woman/women to have erotic chats with. When I questioned him about it he said he was just putting some "bait" out there to see what kind of response he would get. The most recent one was in Feb/March 2007.
He ended up leaving me and the kids because I couldnt get over it and kept feeling hurt over what he did. He doesnt think it's a big deal. He said he has done nothing wrong and refuses to acknowledge that what he did has the potential to hurt. He thinks I'm being difficult and want to run stuff in the ground. I cant help it, I'm hurting and everytime I look at him I want to cry.
He calls me crazy,psycho,obbessive and jealous. I started going thru his email and forwarding the member acct emails to myself and I started noticing his mail count was going down fast. He was deleting the emails while at his dad's in an effort to cover his tracks. He said he doesnt want me to have anything againist him. He also changed the password to his email accts and myspace.
He doesnt want to do counseling now because he said all it's going to do is drag up this "crap" again and he doesnt want to hear it anymore. He said he agrees to not talk to Beth so I'll stop nagging,and that he wont go to those sites because he doesnt want me freaking out again. He said he doesnt see the point in therapy as if he agrees to stop then that should be the end of it. He doesnt see that there was problems beforehand that caused him to do all this. He expects me to take his word that he wont do it again,and get over stuff just like that. How is that possible when I feel so hurt,betrayed and that our trust is shot?
And why doesnt he see what he did was wrong? Why is is ok for him to do this? Even his family is saying that it wasnt that bad,and he didnt cheat on me. They kept saying you're a good man she's lucky to have you. Pretty much making it my fault for everything. They always do this,always meddling. That drives me nuts too. I dont just "battle" my husband, I "battle" his whole overly zealous family. That alone is enough to make me want to seperate just to get away from them.
I have read articles,posts on here but I still dont know what to do. I thought I was moving in the right direction only to find out I wasnt. Any advice is appreciated. Thank you!
Then I found several membership acct emails in his email box for online porn chat sites. He was looking for a woman/women to have erotic chats with. When I questioned him about it he said he was just putting some "bait" out there to see what kind of response he would get. The most recent one was in Feb/March 2007.
He ended up leaving me and the kids because I couldnt get over it and kept feeling hurt over what he did. He doesnt think it's a big deal. He said he has done nothing wrong and refuses to acknowledge that what he did has the potential to hurt. He thinks I'm being difficult and want to run stuff in the ground. I cant help it, I'm hurting and everytime I look at him I want to cry.
He calls me crazy,psycho,obbessive and jealous. I started going thru his email and forwarding the member acct emails to myself and I started noticing his mail count was going down fast. He was deleting the emails while at his dad's in an effort to cover his tracks. He said he doesnt want me to have anything againist him. He also changed the password to his email accts and myspace.
He doesnt want to do counseling now because he said all it's going to do is drag up this "crap" again and he doesnt want to hear it anymore. He said he agrees to not talk to Beth so I'll stop nagging,and that he wont go to those sites because he doesnt want me freaking out again. He said he doesnt see the point in therapy as if he agrees to stop then that should be the end of it. He doesnt see that there was problems beforehand that caused him to do all this. He expects me to take his word that he wont do it again,and get over stuff just like that. How is that possible when I feel so hurt,betrayed and that our trust is shot?
And why doesnt he see what he did was wrong? Why is is ok for him to do this? Even his family is saying that it wasnt that bad,and he didnt cheat on me. They kept saying you're a good man she's lucky to have you. Pretty much making it my fault for everything. They always do this,always meddling. That drives me nuts too. I dont just "battle" my husband, I "battle" his whole overly zealous family. That alone is enough to make me want to seperate just to get away from them.
I have read articles,posts on here but I still dont know what to do. I thought I was moving in the right direction only to find out I wasnt. Any advice is appreciated. Thank you!