Reading Her Chats - 11/08/07 06:33 AM
Hello Folks,
I am new here and have a thread in the Pregnant/Child section (lucky me!). But had a question that I wanted more general feedback on.
My wife had 3 or 4 EM encounters over our 6+ years together (and yes, the last ending in pregnancy). But she has had tons of online conversations that involved sex, cybersex, planning to get together for sex (most meetings never making it into reality) and other communications that most of us would find questionable at the very least for a woman in a monogamous relationship.
These chats are all logged and I have been reading them over the past 2-3 weeks. At first she was basically ok with me doing it. Over the last week she has begun to ask me to stop. Me quoting them or now even just reading them is really bothering her.
I tell her that I am learning and they have helped us get to this point, which is true. They have helped correct her very faulty memory and helped answer some very important questions. But she feels they are reminding her of a part of herself she is very uncomfortable with and that I am hitting her over the head with them (I am some, but not as much as she feels it).
She feels it is doing some bad things to her mentally and driving space between us. She has gotten to the point this evening of telling me if I don't stop reading them she would think about leaving. She asked me to delete them as well.
Any thoughts?
I am new here and have a thread in the Pregnant/Child section (lucky me!). But had a question that I wanted more general feedback on.
My wife had 3 or 4 EM encounters over our 6+ years together (and yes, the last ending in pregnancy). But she has had tons of online conversations that involved sex, cybersex, planning to get together for sex (most meetings never making it into reality) and other communications that most of us would find questionable at the very least for a woman in a monogamous relationship.
These chats are all logged and I have been reading them over the past 2-3 weeks. At first she was basically ok with me doing it. Over the last week she has begun to ask me to stop. Me quoting them or now even just reading them is really bothering her.
I tell her that I am learning and they have helped us get to this point, which is true. They have helped correct her very faulty memory and helped answer some very important questions. But she feels they are reminding her of a part of herself she is very uncomfortable with and that I am hitting her over the head with them (I am some, but not as much as she feels it).
She feels it is doing some bad things to her mentally and driving space between us. She has gotten to the point this evening of telling me if I don't stop reading them she would think about leaving. She asked me to delete them as well.
Any thoughts?