I need advise - 05/06/09 10:22 AM
Hello
This is my first time to post and I need advise! I have long suspected there was something going on between my wife and her boss. Six months ago I found map quest directions in her car to another mans house who just happens to be a friend of her boss. At the same time I found a note in the car that she wrote stating she was sorry for the way she acted while on travel with him because he was being overly friendly with another woman and possibly being intimate with her and that she could handle being the "other woman" but not one of many other women. BTW..her boss is married. She went on to say that she felt there might be an element of "Love in the mix" in thier relationship and she hates when the weekends come because she can not be around him. I confronted her about this and she was extemely upset and said those were her private thoughts and nothing more and they are NOTHING MORE than good friends and she only went over to his friends house because she needed to be alone and write this note. FYI... she would never address the piece about being the "other woman" when asked. About a month later I checked her text messages on her cell and found 2 messages to him 1) I miss talking to you & 2) just ignoring or did I do something wrong. Again I confronted her and she was furious and said they are nothing more than good friends and basically I needed to accept that fact. Then recently I opened our credit card bill and found a charge to a hotel room, oh by the way is only a block from where she works and she only stayed there for 3 hours. I again confronted her and she stated she needed time alone to think some things through. However, upon checking her cell phone online I noticed that 4 minutes after she checked in she placed two calls one to her bosses office phone and the other to his cell. What am I to do? This month is our 20th anniversary and we have two daughters (18,14).
This is my first time to post and I need advise! I have long suspected there was something going on between my wife and her boss. Six months ago I found map quest directions in her car to another mans house who just happens to be a friend of her boss. At the same time I found a note in the car that she wrote stating she was sorry for the way she acted while on travel with him because he was being overly friendly with another woman and possibly being intimate with her and that she could handle being the "other woman" but not one of many other women. BTW..her boss is married. She went on to say that she felt there might be an element of "Love in the mix" in thier relationship and she hates when the weekends come because she can not be around him. I confronted her about this and she was extemely upset and said those were her private thoughts and nothing more and they are NOTHING MORE than good friends and she only went over to his friends house because she needed to be alone and write this note. FYI... she would never address the piece about being the "other woman" when asked. About a month later I checked her text messages on her cell and found 2 messages to him 1) I miss talking to you & 2) just ignoring or did I do something wrong. Again I confronted her and she was furious and said they are nothing more than good friends and basically I needed to accept that fact. Then recently I opened our credit card bill and found a charge to a hotel room, oh by the way is only a block from where she works and she only stayed there for 3 hours. I again confronted her and she stated she needed time alone to think some things through. However, upon checking her cell phone online I noticed that 4 minutes after she checked in she placed two calls one to her bosses office phone and the other to his cell. What am I to do? This month is our 20th anniversary and we have two daughters (18,14).