Now what? - 02/09/05 01:18 PM
Rummaged through H's things yesterday and found a cd-r marked "private". Of course that meant I should look at it (curiosity killed the cat and all). Turns out it was filled with pictures of OW; the one that he swears he's not having an affair with; the one that lives long-distance that he has her name programmed into his phone under a man (as to not look suspicious), the one that he said "would say all kinds of things" to get a dad for her kids when confronted about a text message I found. He now locks his cell phone, so that I can't snoop, so no more ammunition that way.
What's so galling is that this morning he went on a long spiel about knowing that I wanted to continue to be a SAHM, and that we neeed to look at starting our own business to plan for the future when our 7 and 4 year olds go to college. Things like having enough money to retire on and see our grandkids. Am I the delusional one or is he? I think that he thinks that as long as the OW is hundreds of miles away, and he can only see her "virtually" unless he's up there on a business trip, that things are ok.
I've not confronted him about the find, I just copied the disc and put it in my place for future use. I've also got OW's email and personal info; should I use it? Should I confront her about what is going on? Should I hear her side and find out if H is lying? (which of course I suspect he is..)
What's so galling is that this morning he went on a long spiel about knowing that I wanted to continue to be a SAHM, and that we neeed to look at starting our own business to plan for the future when our 7 and 4 year olds go to college. Things like having enough money to retire on and see our grandkids. Am I the delusional one or is he? I think that he thinks that as long as the OW is hundreds of miles away, and he can only see her "virtually" unless he's up there on a business trip, that things are ok.
I've not confronted him about the find, I just copied the disc and put it in my place for future use. I've also got OW's email and personal info; should I use it? Should I confront her about what is going on? Should I hear her side and find out if H is lying? (which of course I suspect he is..)