Is it time for Plan B?? - 04/20/09 05:07 PM
I have posted this in the D forum and in the infidelity forum.
Briefly, WW is at it again for the third time. We have 5 children and one passed away 7 years ago. She was carrying on with a EZ online. Once i discovered this i told her we were done and that she needed to get an attorney. She didnt do anything except find another person to continue the EA with. She confided in some one she knew 20 years agao (and knows nothing of her cheating past as well as her drinking problem). Her two passed A were physical. This one hasnt turned physical (?) becuase the person is in another state. She conitues to communicate with the OM via a new hidden cell phone. We are in teh same house but sleep in separate bedrooms. We dont speak untles its about the kids and even then its limited. She is using the kids as messengers when it comes time to communicate something to me. I am done with this relationship but i feel for my children (eldest is 14).
I have consulted an attorney and a D is very expensive and costly for all involved especially the kids. I feel we need to mediate this to a point where we have the childrens best interest at heart. This cant happen while she is having the A.
I feel that it is extermely hurtful and damageing to the kids to contiue to see this on a day to day basis. Its also hurtful to me...
I want her out of the house at least until we can get to a point that we can mediate the D successfuly.
I cant legally throw her out and she wont leave. She is a typcial cake eater. I think she expects me to leave the house the kids so she can bring her OM in.
Dont know if OM is married or not and quite frankly dont care. From my persective Im done. This isnt the first time. Its the 3rd. Technically the the 4th actually.
Do i plan B now since there is no legal recourse i can take. She has a drinking problem but has no DUI or any documented instances other than some out patient sessions 5 years ago.
any advice? any sample plan B's. I read the books in the past but dont have them anymore. .....
Briefly, WW is at it again for the third time. We have 5 children and one passed away 7 years ago. She was carrying on with a EZ online. Once i discovered this i told her we were done and that she needed to get an attorney. She didnt do anything except find another person to continue the EA with. She confided in some one she knew 20 years agao (and knows nothing of her cheating past as well as her drinking problem). Her two passed A were physical. This one hasnt turned physical (?) becuase the person is in another state. She conitues to communicate with the OM via a new hidden cell phone. We are in teh same house but sleep in separate bedrooms. We dont speak untles its about the kids and even then its limited. She is using the kids as messengers when it comes time to communicate something to me. I am done with this relationship but i feel for my children (eldest is 14).
I have consulted an attorney and a D is very expensive and costly for all involved especially the kids. I feel we need to mediate this to a point where we have the childrens best interest at heart. This cant happen while she is having the A.
I feel that it is extermely hurtful and damageing to the kids to contiue to see this on a day to day basis. Its also hurtful to me...
I want her out of the house at least until we can get to a point that we can mediate the D successfuly.
I cant legally throw her out and she wont leave. She is a typcial cake eater. I think she expects me to leave the house the kids so she can bring her OM in.
Dont know if OM is married or not and quite frankly dont care. From my persective Im done. This isnt the first time. Its the 3rd. Technically the the 4th actually.
Do i plan B now since there is no legal recourse i can take. She has a drinking problem but has no DUI or any documented instances other than some out patient sessions 5 years ago.
any advice? any sample plan B's. I read the books in the past but dont have them anymore. .....