First of all, Happy New Year to everyone. I have some good news.<P>After a few months of hell, I finally got some feedback to Plan A. He has finally said he wants to work on the marriage and is actually doing it. He told me he realizes he is not in love with OW and was only in love with the attention he was getting. <P>The only thing that confuses me is that he isn't ready to move back home. He feels it is refreshing to live on his own. Does this mean he isn't really ready to commit to the marriage? Or should I just let it be and continue plan A. Or does this mean we are in recovery? I feel we will not be in recovery until he moves back home. <P>I am excited that he has finally realized what he has done, but then hesitant that he isn't committed becaue he hasn't moved back home. I don't think he will move back for a while because he has changed a lot of things, gotten his paycheck to go into his own private account, new phone account, change names on all of our bills etc. <P>And then he is talking about buying a house together because the apartment we live in doesn't give us space needed apart from one another once and a while. <P>This time his actions are speaking louder than his words, but the only thing holding me back is him not moving back. What do you think? Should I be concerned. He said he won't contact her anymore and said he got rid of the account they used. I don' know for sure that that was the account, but if I go on second guessing him all the time, I would be LBing big time. So am trying to just take what he says as truth until proven otherwise. <P>I would like to hear your thoughts about this . Thanks, I never thought this day would come.<P>Rhonda

Accept what has happened and watch is actions. Maybe he wants to work on the marriage before moving back. Ensure that he has no contact with OW><P>My H is ringing me all the time again, but is still going on holiday with OW, he cant let me go. I have let him go.<P>Plan A planA plan A. Good luck and let us know how it is going. We are your support.

Rhonda, sounds like some positive things are happening for you!! When I read Harley's book "Surviving an Affair" It referenced a situation like you are talking about and said to be careful about the timing of the WS's return. I think this is mainly to help protect yourself from a regression into the A again. I am very new to this whole thing as I only found out about W's A 3.5 weeks ago. That book was given to me and has been a great resource as has this site. Good luck!!