HI-
I am feeling down at the moment and need to vent I suppose.WH is still out of town,he still calls his brother everyday to let him know that he is OK and to relay it on to me.He left Sunday,said he needed time away from everyone to think.He assures us that he is by himself and if we wanted to we could check to mack sure that she was at her home because she was not with him.He said he would probably be back tomorrow.He was feeling somewhat better but still needed time to think.I so want him to come back and say that he wants to work on our marriage.I love him dearly and want nothing more but to get pass this and make a better marriage.I just fear that when he comes back he will tell me that it is over.I ask the Lord everyday to put us back together,O how I pray THat he hears me.

LittleLady,

We all want our spouses back, your no different.

The fear, anxiety, the unknown while the fog is firmly in place leaves us with nothing but our thoughts.

And our thoughts can be scary, dark places when fed the right diet.

Your WH is away and you have nothing but time to dwell on your greatest fears, but fear not. Better to find something to do for yourself to ease your mind.

Invite a friend over for dinner, take the kids to see a movie (a funny one), clean the house (again!), rekindle an interest you may have had in the past but could never find time to do it(if you have time to dwell on the negative, you have time to do plenty of things).

I know this probably doesn't help much right now but just know, we are ALL in this boat together. Whatever kind words or support we can provide to help, I promise we'll contribute.

Stay Strong, Be true to yourself, and most importantly....

Remember, you can only improve/work on yourself. If S spouse comes along, fantastic! If not, you are a better person in the long run either way.

BrokenHubby

Brokenhubby is so right. We all go through this. There is nothing you can do right now. Do things to occupy yourself. This is the most valuable advice I got from here. Your prayer will be answered. It may not be the way you wanted, but GOD knows what is best for you.

HUG

I agree with both of them. Just try to stay busy doing SOMETHING, ANYTHING. It is so hard. We all know it. When you want something so bad and are willing to do anything to get it back. What is the saying? "if you love something, set it free, if it loves you, it will come back"